Some of you may remember me, doubt it but maybe so. I spent most of 2006 in Plan A/B and 2 years of trying to do everything to save my marriage...which didn't work.

so after doing everything in my power, exposing over and over and over and over...did i say over???? Yes over....it didn't stop the affair and after 2+ years of them hiding and getting caught over and over...its still going strong....today.

August 07 i finally moved out and moved on. Thank God i am in a better place...mentally and emotionally. God DOES heal the broken hearted!

But here is why i stopped by...because i loved this place it gave me comfort and advice when i needed it most...now i'm just curious.

He won't sign the divorce papers. What gives???

isn't a money thing. I left him everything. EVERYTHING!! he is paying child support already so it isn't that. Doesn't love me, doesn't want me, doesn't want to end his A...

Oh i know the court will make him and it will be done...i am simply looking for a response from you about Y you think he won't do what he said he wanted to do.
Just curious guys.....

Y wont he sign?????

God Bless and Happy 2008!! Jaysmom

it didn't stop the affair and after 2+ years of them hiding and getting caught over and over...its still going strong....today.

Is the OW married or is she single?

I would say that if she is single, he isn't signing because he doesn't want to be free to marry her. She might be laying it on thick...."once your divorce is final, we can get married".<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

He might not want that...hence forestalling the divorce.

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Hard to say why he's stalling. However, I have read where the feelings of romantic love can last from 3 months to around 18 months and then that's where mature love starts. The warm, fuzzy, fantasy feelings start to fade and the real work of a relationship begins. Maybe STBEXH and the OW aren't so mature after all. Who would've thunk? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

He MAY be having second thoughts, or just lazy. Who knows.

What if he decides he doesn't want a divorce? Have you decided what you would do if he wanted you back? If the answer is a definite "no", just keep on keeping on.

It's been heard here many times the BS moves on and the FWH wants to come back but, it's too late.

OW very, very married and the exposure was to her H and family and church numerous times. I didn't havta do much...she confessed several times. OWH just kept on forgiving her and hoping she really had stopped.

Since OW is married, then I wonder if the reason he doesn't want the divorce is that SHE hasn't held up her end of the bargain.

You see, he looks like a fool. He left you for another woman. Only, the other woman didn't give anything up for him. She stayed in her marriage, and has exactly what she wants - her husband and a fantasy OM on the side.

Your STBXH knows exactly what he is - he is someone else's second choice. You see, he thought YOU were his second choice, and all along, he is number 2. (in more ways than one)

Now, if he doesn't sign, he can save what little face he has left by saying,

I NEVER SIGNED FOR THAT DIVORCE, MY EX-WIFE FORCED IT ON ME.

He stands there now, with neither the wife he should have stayed with, nor the woman he left her for.

And he deserves what he has.

Nothing.

Perhaps at some point he will learn something?