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#2001616 01/02/08 12:33 PM
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WHO WILL COMMIT TO PUTTING BA AND ALL THIER OTHER NAMES ON IGNORE RIGHT NOW TODAY?

THIS WILL END MANY OF THE CURRENT PROBLEMS AND BRING BACK THE BOARD TO A HELPING BOARD.

NAME YOUR NAME IF YOU WILL COMMIT TO THIS.

WE CAN DO IT! WE HAVE POWER IF WE WORK TOGETHER AS A GROUP!

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not me...ignoring this person puts newbies at risk.

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DONE!

If I see, by some newby's story, that they need help I am not going to ignore them. In fact i only have three people on IGNORE now. But that has saved me wasted time and aggravation.

Why does ignoring BA put newbies at risk?

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Funny you mention this right now. tst and I just discussed that we will ignore every reincarnation from here on out.

However, what do you suggest when this person posts to newbies? Do you suggest no one let the newbie know?


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No. Count me out of this "idea."

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NO THANKS


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Why does ignoring BA put newbies at risk?


by putting him on ignore we can't see what he is posting to a newbie.

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Good question sexym. Let the new ones find out for themselves perhaps?

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Why does ignoring BA put newbies at risk?

Because the newbies don't know BA's history and could actually believe they're getting solid MB advice.


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You can see it if you go out of your screen name and come in as anonomous. I accidently did that a couple times.....it just tempts you less to respond.

I see those that want to continue to argue with the BA's and those who don't. There are two groups here! This is just an observation. I had assumed the BA's were causing so much trouble you all would want to put them on ignore.

I can see I was wrong.

Well; PLAN 2 if you dont want to put BA on ignore is to NOT RESPOND To them in any way. Plan 2. REFUSE TO RESPOND

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Stella...

It really is best to let others decide for themselves how they wish to handle things, don't ya think?

Btw, letting newbies "find out for themselves" HERE in GQII is FAR more dangerous than it would be in say in the EN forum...Newbies come here in dire straits and often need very specific direction very quickly...

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"It really is best to let others decide for themselves how they wish to handle things, don't ya think?"

Mrsawondering, Of course! I am letting them decide! They are deciding! I am not ordering them to do anything.

I am just observing this fact:

*Most are irritated by BA and most of you want to keep BA's posts coming. I am just surprised! That's all!

I guess BA is not as irritating as you all make out they are....or something.

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SK..what are you missing about the replies you have been given.
It isn't that people want him to keep posting...it is about not wanting him running amok on the boards with no one to monitor him.

I don't see the difficulty in that...nor do I understand the purpose of this thread...so I will now leave it.

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I am sorry but I respect you all on this board. You are very wise and have helped many people and I love you for it.

So you can imagine my amazement when I see person after person "talk to", reason with, and even go so far as to "demand apopogies" from a TROLL!

It is amazing and disturbing for me to see. From a group of highly intelligent folks. It is still going on.

WHY!?

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I'm asking for an apology because it is the thing he needs to do, morally.

He cannot get himself right unless he takes the steps of atonement.

Simple as that.

SB

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I can see the point of going behind and helping to Correct any erroneous (or otherwise detrimental) information this BA (or other incarnation) is giving out ..........[this is a Good Thing].

But I too am a bit perplexed by the need to engage (as some have labeled "it") in direct discourse.

Its just highly unlikely that anyone would be able to change this person's attitudes and actions.

That probably just ain't gonna happen .......as that approach rarely work on folks that are strolling out of boredom , getting kicks, or some other non-legitimate reason for being here.

But if you get something OUT of engaging "it" ---
hey,
its your time and energy. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

{Then again I haven't been directly affected by this poster ....but if I was ....I'd probably be ready to pick up a club too}.
So I give some special understanding to any that feel they've been harrassed in any way.

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So you can imagine my amazement when I see person after person "talk to", reason with, and even go so far as to "demand apopogies" from a TROLL!

LOL Stella you have such a knack for getting to the heart of the matter!

When you put it like THAT... well...

Someone remind me, what's the definition of insanity? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


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So you can imagine my amazement when I see person after person "talk to", reason with, and even go so far as to "demand apopogies" from a TROLL!

It is amazing and disturbing for me to see. From a group of highly intelligent folks. It is still going on.

WHY!?


I can't answer for anyone else, Stella. But I have not "posted" to BA. I have posted to schoolbus about BA and what I think BA should do.

Perhaps part of the problem is that you can't understand why other intelligent people might disagree with your advice or "preferred" course of action. That's the same type of reasoning that you've used in attempting to slander me for disagreeing with your advice to others.

Perhaps others don't want to put BA on "ignore" so that they can know what might be posted and be able to "disagree" with the proferred advice if they think it's warranted.

Or is simply that when someone disagrees with you you feel "distessed?"

That may be why you continue to insist on call that person a "troll" even after the Moderator investigated and determine he/she is not a troll.

You don't have to "like" or "agree" with the advice of others, but it is the Moderators and Administrators who get to determine who may or may not be allowed to participate on MB.

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That may be why you continue to insist on call that person a "troll" even after the Moderator investigated and determine he/she is not a troll.

I'm certainly not going to assume that this occurred. I didn't read anywhere that Justuss has determined anything of the sort.

It would seem more likely to me that (and I'm wingin it here) that Admin's hands are tied in that they CAN'T STOP BA from posting. Ban one BA, he comes back as another. I think Admin and BA simply came to a working agreement on him posting here.


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Perhaps others don't want to put BA on "ignore" so that they can know what might be posted and be able to "disagree" with the proferred advice if they think it's warranted.


That may be why you continue to insist on call that person a "troll" even after the Moderator investigated and determine he/she is not a troll.

Exactly ... and that should be the end of it.


I can't see BA posting his/her story any time soon with all the badgering going on and everyone waiting to pounce.

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