Myself and my partner have now been married 3 months and im hating every moment of it. Our married life consists of him going to work in a morning and coming home and going straight on his pc. HE barely comes near me anymore unless its for sex, and im even going off that because of it.

I dont know what im supposed to do, the more he sits there the more im going out my mind trying to work out why im here!

I've tried talking to him about it, and things will change for maybe a day if im lucky.

When he does come off the computer when i've told him it upsets me all he does is go in a bad mood and then things turn into an argument, then i end up all night in tears.

I just feel like im wasting away, i feel so unloved and all i actually want is someone to hold me, someone to make me feel alive, feel attractive.

I dont want to leave him, but i dont want to live like this either.

Any advice anyone please, i cant spend my life wasting away.

Thanks

I can't really speak from experience (Since i'm not married)
but sounds to me like he's completely oblivious to your needs, or that he has something else on his mind that he's avoiding by using the computer as a destraction....I think you'll have to continue to talk to him about it and tell him how you feel, and ask him why the computer is more important than you....and if it continues you might have to give him an ultimatum...it's either he loves you ro he loves the computer, and hopefull he'll choose you, and if he doesn't....he didn't deserve you in the first place.

I don't know if this is your guy's case, but I feel like the guy in your situation, so this might help. My wife and I have been married just four months, but been living together for almost two years. I don't have the problem with the computer (if anything, she chooses the computer over me), but I do have the same problem with change your guy seems to have. And, if he's like me, he wants to change, but can't seem to. My guess is that if he didn't want to change he wouldn't even do it for a day, or would do it just long enough to get something that he wants. For example, despite what my wife thought at first, she's noticed that even though I want to change and do change for a little while about things, eventually I slip back into old habits and the fighting starts again.

I know how you feel, because I think my wife feels the same way. She doesn't want to leave me, even when she says she does, because she always gives me another chance, yet she doesn't deserve to live like that, and neither do you. So I guess I don't have any specific advice other than don't give up on him so long as he seems to be honestly trying to change. One day he, like I hope I will, change.