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He was someone I once thought to be a friend and a lover. Someone who when he was not angry, he was a good listen, sincere and caring lover. Though looking back, there were many red flags. Every time we have a disagreement or when another guy looked at me or asked me out without knowing that he was with me, he would drive all over the road, going very fast, break very hard when he almost hit the car infornt of him. We were both very young then and I didn't think it would be a problem, but it just got worse. Really doesn't matter anymore though. It is time to move out with my life....
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That's a very good idea. I guess, to boil it all down, all I ask is that you make sure the hurt you feel from his affair (which is very real, I don't minimize that at all) does not affect what you do with the kids.
In other words, love your kids more than you hate the ex.
Try to not interfere in dad's time with the kids. Even though you may not feel you are, some of us guys are offended by being told we are incompetent. Heck, we were good enough when we were together!
You might find his behavior changes when he doesn't feel you are trying to control him. Not that you are, it just appears that you might be.
Good luck in your decision.
It is rare for a truly happy woman to try and take a child away from it's father.
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I have the last five years to deal with his cheating and as much as it hurts, I have learned to accept it and move on with my life. And no, I don't hate him. I feel sorry for him more than mad at time. He grew up without a mom who committed sucide due to his father's cheating. I thought that he would be different since he experience it first hand of what cheating can do, but I was wrong.
My children will always be priority in my life. I'll protect my children from anyone and everyone including their father who have hurt them before. That's my responsibilities as their mom.
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