I'm twenty-four years old,I've been married for four years.
I have one child who I love with all my heart,but my wife is
deadset on ending our marriage.After losing my job and having trouble finding steady employment,my wife sought for us to live seperatly.She said that the finacial,and emotional stress was begining to be too much for her,and she felt that the time apart would help us.Through much consideration I hesatantly agreed,soon after she went on a trip out of town, and proceeded to have have sex with a stranger.She also met with a male coworker how she had been attracted to,but not really able to see freely.After securing a good job I decided it was time for me to move back in,she admited to me that day that she had been unfaithful to me.I was crushed,but with full determination I decided to try to reconcile our marriage for the sake of our family.Not long into tring to mend the damage,I realized that she was still acting distant and almost frigid
so I asked her what she thoght was the best thing about me, to which she replied"the only good thing about you is that your a good father,other than that NOTHING".I could sense that her words were a prelude to something bigger so I calmly asked her was she seeing someone else.With an embarresed smile she confirmed that she was indeed seeing
her male coworker that she had met on her trip.She said that they were not having sex,but I later overheard a phone conversation with another female coworker that has led me to belive otherwise.It was soon after that she told me that
she was no longer in love with me and in so many words wanted to be with this other man.To add insult to injury, I found out that he is married but seperated from his wife.He
claims to only have gotten married to help someone stay in the States.She told me that she never really loved me and had only married me for the friendship and the sex,she claims that the entire marriage was a mistake that she made
to prove a point to someone else.She said that counsiling would be a waste of her time because she "just doesn't want to be with me anymore".I need some advice,anthing would help

Where is your wife currently living (by herself, parents?) and who kept your child when she went on her trip?

Second, never believe it what a wayward spouse tells you that the other person is divorced, single, in an open marriage or whatever. Wayward spouses almost invariably lie.

Do you know the name of the co-worker?

So, where are you living and what kind of support (family, church, friends) do you have? Have you read any of the articles provided for free on the main part of this site?

Sorry for the questions, but your chances of getting better responses will be increased with more detailed information from you.

My wife is living with my child in our condo.When she went on her trip she left my daughter with her parents,I was also out of town buring my dead grandfather.While she may be lying about alot of things the OM is just as I described his marital status.When we got married I left my family and moved closer to hers.( I moved here from L.A.)My family does there best to support me finacialy and emotionaly.

I read the articles daily to try to help keep me motivated.
Thanx!

So, what is keeping you from moving back into your own home?

There is a older thread here that you might locate titled (I believe) "Men Don't Leave Your Home" or perhaps "Don't Leave Your Home." Have you read it?

You should move back home and read up on Plan A and Plan B.

FYI my WH (husband) said almost the exact same thing to me 6 months ago...now he's saying how stupid he was and begging to work on the M. Though he is still in some fog. Its a process ILL--hang in there. Please read about Plan A.

Okay, pardner, time to get real here. You need to find out more about this OM and his wife. You see, adulterers LIE. It's a way of life for them; it's how they keep going while betraying their spouse. Chances are, the OM and his wife aren't in nearly as platonic a relationship as your WW thinks...she's being lied to also. Friend, the wife of the OM needs to know about this problem in her marriage and she needs to learn about it from you, and as soon as possible. It's time to break up the little fantasy world they've built up around themselves. Start now, okay?

LH