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Hey everybody, I'm just about ready. H is getting the kids after school & will deliver them for bedtime. Meanwhile, I will make my finalizations to cut him off.
HELP - he sent me a text this morning, "I really need to talk to you today"
TODAY we're not in Plan B. Do I call, or leave it alone?
WHAT SHOULD I DO!?!!??!
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OK I know it's silly, but as I cannot predict what he might possibly want to talk about I don't want to mess up my whole plan. Maybe he wants to talk D, maybe he wants to convince me to let kids spend the night, maybe he wants money, has an OW, misses the dogs...!?!? I have no idea.
So far I'm ignoring...
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If you're not in Plan B yet, why not take his call? Just keep your Plan B intentions in the back of your mind. Don't commit to anything. Just listen.
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Call him up and talk to him! Don't commit to anything. Just tell him that you will have to think on it and get back to him.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Have your Plan B letter ready. Let him go first. If it's more of the same, hand him the letter and escort him out. Have you spoken to the Harleys lately? It is usually recommended that you speak with them first to help you solidify the plan.
We're with ya, girl! Hang in there, I know this has to be excruciatingly difficult for you, and I'm sorry!!
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I respectfully disagree with all of the above advice. Short of him walking in and handing you a vial of disulfiram and asking you to monitor it for him( and then having him chain himself to your wrist), do not change the plan that you know and have known is necessary.
No matter what he says or does today it will eventually be "more of the same".
Best of luck
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"Never shelter anyone from the realities of their decisions": Noodle
You believe easily what you hope for ernestly
Infidelity does not kill marriages, the lying does
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Cymanca, she is not in Plan B yet.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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p.s. Hi Cymanca, good to see ya! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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OK, I will call him on my lunch and just LISTEN - and say nothing.
This is usually a good (but hard to "enforce") policy with me. <winky smiley here>
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