I am having a really hard time here. I have a seperate post that I would like to keep out of this. Ok, I am the type of girl who gets hurt easily. A few times in my marriage if found my husband looking up pictures of other girls. Sometimes topless but never bottomless. This really hurt me. I talked it over with him and he actually denied even doing so. So that made me very insecure. I would check over his computer to see if I could find pictures and check his favorites folder to see if he had any sites saved and even his history to see if he had been looking some up. My problem with this whole thing is it makes me feel that I am not good enough. That I can not satisy anyone. I feel so worthless so not sexy. It makes me feel horriable. I am trying to get over this. Trying to make myself believe that I am the one he wants. But I can't. I am falling apart at the seams. How can I fix this? How can I learn to accept it?

Try not to feel too upset about his actions - its common behaviour for a lot of people to view this sort of thing from time to time especially men.

If you have a great marriage and he is only doing this very occasionally I would say you have nothing to worry about.

On the other hand this is upsetting you and he needs to understand this and consider thinking about stopping for your sake.

Some couples havent got a problem with this but its only Ok if BOTH of them are comfortable with it.

Try not to let it get you down but calmly discuss it with him and I am sure he will understand.

MLS,

I posted to you on the Emotional Needs Board... have you checked your responses over there? I don't want to interrupt your thread here so I will continue to post to you on your other thread. I would really like to know how you are doing. If you feel up to it would you mind sharing more with us... updating us over on the EN board?

Hang in there.
Jilly

I agree with jet... if he looks at pics occasionally, it really does not mean anything. He is a guy and guys will look from time to time. However, if he is surfing hard porn on a regular basis, then he has a problem.

Regardless, it has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with you. OK?? I am a guy and I truly mean that.

Since it does bother you, then you need to talk to him and let him know. Ask him why he is looking.

Keith