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NA, I agree with others here. This counselor is a predator and regardless of whether he has done this 100 times or once, it needs to be reported to the proper authorities immediately. Emotional dependency and transference with a therapist or a counselor is a common element for treatment and you have been violated by this man. Transference: a phenomenon in psychology characterized by unconscious redirection of feelings for one person to another. Transference is common. Only in a personally or socially harmful context can transference be described as a pathological issue. His behavior is considered misconduct and a violation of ethics and your husband should be immediately informed so that the two of you can deal with this together.
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NA,
Don't let the OM get the first opportunity to "spin" this to your H.
Testosterone boys! Testosterone! It ain’t just for nose, ear and back hair anymore!
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AGREE with Chrisner! And I also think you should tell him before you have a chance to lose your nerve and before the OM has a chance to talk you out of it.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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The advice you are getting is right on the mark... please listen!
BH - me 53, ONS 1979
FWW - 51, 2 EA's, 1 PA
Last D-Day, Sep. 30, 2003
Last Contact/recovery began 2-26-04
***You can do anything with time and money...but remember...money won't buy you time!***
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Keep in mind that it's not even possible for a sane adult to be "in love" after 5 weeks.
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He took advantage of you and is the most despicable type of person on this planet. DON'T EVER SEE OR CONTACT HIM AGAIN.
After you have calmed down, we can talk about how you resolve this with your devoted husband. I 100% agree! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> This just breaks my heart. Your Husband will be hurt, but it will be worse if you wait. I agree with all there other posters here.
Last edited by Okieflyer; 01/10/08 10:53 AM.
BS (me) : 43yo WW: 41 yo married 17+ yrs D-Day #1 ONS Aug 03 D-Day #2 Dec 5, 2007 Four kids: 14 yo Son, 11 yo Son, 7 yo Daughter, 5 yo son First Day on MBSecond Thread on MB
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