How can we help you get out of it?

I want to get out of my depression, so I would love to help you.

Oh, skinsgal, just talking to you and all of the other goddesses here helps.

My ex left and didn't look back. I was heartbroken for several years. Now that I'm enjoying life again, he's back. I just need to get over it. And I will. Too bad for him.

B

Just curious. Has your WH even mentioned about trying to do some of the things you wanted in the PBL to reconcile? Or is he just wanting to waltz back into your life free and clear---wah, wah, blah, blah, blah.

Not saying you want him back mind you, it just interesting to me that he has come to this place after all this time and that it still gets to you. I'm not criticizing you at all--you are one of my MB heros. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

It just makes me wonder if one can ever move on...if there is ever such a state as indifference (the opposite of love).

Smartie

Maybe we could roast HIM instead of the GOAT! (har har) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

When does your new guy get back? I thought he was supposed to be back by now. Sheeesh, XH, new great man, and that friend that was after you.. you should be feelin GOOD Miss THANG! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> I'm just teasin' ya-I know you are totally diggin' your new guy and all this other stuff is just irritating.

BTW- That show is AWESOME, isn't it!

Did you think you would get to this point?

B - how did you take care of yourself for all those years? You are absolutely amazing to me.

Right on. Forget the other stuff I just wrote--who cares why XH is where he is? YOU are in a better place.

See, I knew I liked you for a reason!

Smartie

"Or is he just wanting to waltz back into your life free and clear---wah, wah, blah, blah, blah."

Ding, ding, ding!!!!!!!!!

Quick TJ - his letter from today -

Dear Believer - I hope the start of this year finds you in good health and spirits. My prayers are with you for strength and endurance. I wish I could be there to comfort you, but I see my Christmas miracle didn't happen. I had asked God for reconciliation with you. So much time has passed, too much water over the dam, too many bad feelings.

I know you told me to "just go away". I have accepted that rejection and will respect your wishes.

I am very sorry for the hurt I have caused. I am reminded over and over of my sinful nature. You were a wonderful wife and I deserve whatever you decide. Please forgive me.

I've looked pregnant in those things since forever - that's what happens when you are well endowed upstairs. ****** will freeze over before I go out in a baby doll anything....don't they intend for the size 2s to wear them? EEEEGADS!!!!!

Well, it had to happen, some goddess coming along and complaining that she is too well endowed up top. Poor thing.

B--

That letter. Please -- sounds just like the garbage my WH would write--nearly word for word. Where is that little violin and the puking icon when I need it? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

If he doesn't lay off, I say get your new BF to set him "straight"--hee hee!

You must be a wonder goddess!!!

Smartie

"You must be a wonder goddess!!!"

Not yet, smartie, but working on it.

My new guy will be back next week. Can hardly wait. In the meantime, I'm just ignoring my ex and hoping he goes away.

Not me, I wore my special bra to push them up and out today. I loved it.

Those and my eyes are by far my finest assets.... My eyes, now they are dark, bright and full of love and life. I am so blessed I can wear any eye color make up and it looks awesome.

You don't get me complimenting myself hardly at all, but those two things.... I will. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

My gals shrunk from a DD to a C. I have to go bra shopping again. At least alot of my back pain has lessened.

Tomorrow I'm going to have a great day. I've already decided. Not going to worry about when or if the mailman delivers those D papers. Tomorrow is write cover letters for CD's, agents and managers. Call photolab & give them picture numbers. Go to acting book store and get CD's directory. Going to spend 1 hr with therapy lady. Tomorrow is going to be good. Because I said so.

And you are absolutely right, LA.

Three cheers for your GOOD DAY because she claim it.

Ok Goddesses...thank you! All of the good feelings from this thread got me to get moving, ALL oversized tshirts, GONE, all grandma gowns, GONE, all underwear saved for the bad days, GONE. I still have to Goddessize my closet, but lots of progress here.

Moistureized and wore makeup yesterday. Purfumed, hair looked ok, need a trim. Did at home pedicure will paint toes hopefully today-bright RED a nice color for dull winter. No luck in purchasing new slacks yesterday, but will just head to 'the city' for an all day shopping spree! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

We'll just 'see' how long my DH (and thats dumb! HA) can hold out on complimenting my new me!

"All of the good feelings from this thread got me to get moving, ALL oversized tshirts, GONE, all grandma gowns, GONE, all underwear saved for the bad days, GONE"

Yes, yes, and YES!!!!!!!!

Hey Goddesses,

First to Believer - All I can say is Wow again about your XH. You've always said that they all come back. You know, I have to feel sorry for him. He now has to live with this for the rest of his life. It has to be a huge burden to know that you gave up your wife and family for something that wasn't even real. I think about my WH and how he will feel in 5 years. They have to come to terms with this and on their death beds. Have to look back at their lives and the decisions that they made. Whew. glad I'm the BS instead of the WS.

Now, I told you all that I had a new do. Well...I can't believe it, but I've been in the office for only two hours this morning and so far have had 6 people (including 1 guy my daughter's age) tell me how good my hair looks. Woo-hoo...I sure do feel like a Goddess today! (Makes me think that maybe it must have look like $hit before?).

Oh well, basking in the compliments. I'm going to the mall at lunch to find that new mineral make-up. The compliments I can get used to. Goin' fishin' for more!

Keep on doing this Goddess thing girls. Wish we could all get together for a Goddess Group Picture.

It's good to see so many ladies pop up here for inspiration and comraderie! Oh, whoever posted about doing homework, and asked if it was goddesslike, HECK YEAH! Educating yourself is SEXY BABY! A keen mind is a beautiful thing. Bettering yourself is very goddeslike.

I, personally, can't see returning to school. I achieved so much coming from so little. I'm still very proud of myself for what I accomplished. Also, I've learned so much on the job, that I have the equivalent of a MS, so I would probably want to go the whole nine yards and begin a course toward PhD. That's a lot to ask of me right now. Who know's what tomorrow brings. I'm learning never to say never.

Going to do a bit of light cleaing today, and get in touch with one of my girlfriends to get together this week. She has a nine month old baby boy, who I haven't seen since July, so that will be great!

I'm going to get some of that mineral powder, too!

oh, and MVG--I'm proud of you, lady! Good job purging from that wardrobe.

Caught you in some STINKIN THINKIN, Queenie!!

They make CUTE CLOTHES in ALL SIZES!!

You have to find the RIGHT STORES!!

ETA: I might get edited but I'm gonna say it..Go the LANE BRYANT website and look for the BABYDOLL TOP... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I have a friend who is Plus sized, but refuses to shop at Plus stores, like it's admitting defeat. She really only has trouble fitting her top half, as she is very broad shouldered and well endowed to boot. INstead, she chooses to wear only stretchy material, which doesn't help her midsection. She has been dieting, and fits much better into her clothing, but could stand to wear more structured tops.

I remember a "What Not to Wear" episode with a lady sort of her size. When she did shop in the plus sized store, most tops that fit her off the rack were like TENTS below her breasts, but Stacey and Clinton made a valid point. You can have things TAILORED, and it's not that expensive. Same for shorter ladies, having pants and skirts hemmed to fit properly.

I have hemmed my own pants for years, because I'm 5'5", and most pants in my size have a 32-33" inseam, which is about 1-2 inches too long for me, even in heals. They drag on the ground, and I'm not into the grunge look anymore. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />