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((((GODDESS MIMI)))))

I am so glad to hear that I am not the ONLY one you are yelling at about the sweats...LMAO...

I think it has been @ 2 weeks since I have worn sweatpants and @ 5 6 days since I last wore a sweatshirt...you would be proud..


"Hi my name is NOT2FUN and I am a sweataholic...."


"GODDESS IN TRAINING" not2fun

ps...Storm you did not come in at the "tail end of things"...we GODDESSES are just getting started....Welcome....

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PAJAMAS!!!????

What are you talking about? I don't know what pajamas would be better than sweats? I am thinking of the kind that button up the front (like a smock) with matching pants. Is that what you are talking about? I couldn't run around the house in my PJ's, cuz it is a silky nightgown thingie. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Oh, and I promise not to patch sweatpants....that is really bad! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

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Camis and undies are what I actually wear once I climb into bed (and around the house during the summer).... but its toooooo coooollldddd in my house to wear those around in the winter!! (come on, I live in the northeast!!-- its about 20 degrees here today! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />).

Plus, I am one of those people that is perpetually cold anyways. I keep my thermostat on 68, but I still end up wearing fuzzy socks, slippers, and sweats, AND laying under a blanket and sipping hot tea at night <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />! I think I am cold blooded.

I am all about the cute "underthings". I guess I just don't have cute "lounge wear". Some of my sweats actually still have paint stains on them from when I painted our downstairs wearing them...

I need cute winter-y lounge wear...

We need a goddess catalog! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

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I'm not talking about "Little House on the Prairie" PJ's people. Think Victoria's Secret kinda PJ's, sorta clingy and very cute cotton jersey stuff. This is perfectly good for daytime lounging. When you wanna spice things up in the boudoire, just be sure to have the matching apparel BENEATH the PJ's...


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Oh my gosh, I need GODDESS POWER right now.
I am shaking.

I had to call a lady about a coat.
Her husband died in an avalance (with 2 others) a week ago saturday. Well, he was our cabinet guy (and a friend)and he was here installing a countertop right before Christmas. He left his coat here and didn't come back. I saw him 2 weeks ago and told him it was here and he was glad because he couldn't remember where he left it. He said he would pick it up when he was out this way. 5 days later he died.
Now, I just called and left a message at his house for his wife telling her I have the coat and would like to get it to her. I am shaking. I was so scared I would have one of those "I wish I could erase this message and start over" moments that I wrote down what to say before I called.

Ugh. I knew I would have to do this. I waited until after all the funerals (3 in a very small town) and don't want to wait very long and forget about it or avoid it.
Oh this feels so awful. (I don't know her..only met her once maybe)

I need the power! I still need to talk to her when she calls back.

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hmmmm....putting Victoria's Secret on my shopping list for the weekend...I don't wear jammies to bed, I wear WS tshirts...but that isn;t so pretty either....

See how much I learn here, you guys are covering my ENTIRE wardrobe...lol

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married,
understanding her pain and shock is something you probably can do, and that's a start. Just do what comes naturally.


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Thanks SL.
I hope I can do that.
I don't want to do or say something stupid.

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Today for some reason, I am soooo tired. I have not slept well these past 2 nights. I keep having dreams about WS & OW. Today I am treating myself to a nap for as long as I want. And for some strange reason, my feet are always cold. I have to turn on the heat blanket.


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My feet are always cold, too, sunshine (I like that better than LA--hope you don't mind).

I usually wrap my feet up in the bottom of the blanket at night and rub them together like a grasshopper.


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MarriedandL,

Just in case you hadn't thought of this, don't wash the coat. I had a similar situation occur.
Keep the coat as-is with her husband's smell still on it. She will appreciate that very much.

I think you handled it well by writing down what to say.

That is so tragic. Makes me want to hug my WS.
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Thanks Free2,
I'm glad you mentioned that. I had thought about washing it a few days ago but didn't for the exact reason you stated.

I remember when H and I separated, I remember smelling his clothes when I put them in the washer. It was wierd because I had never noticed his "smell" before and probably don't now, but then in my loneliness, I could get a whiff of his scent. It was a comforting smell. And mine was just a separation, not a death. Ugh. He was only 51. (The other 2 that died were 55 and 42).

Maybe that is what has me so nervous about meeting her and giving her the coat. I don't want to cause painful stuff for her and I don't want to "intrude" if it causes her a hard moment.

I haven't heard from her yet.

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You are going to be great, no worries. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Maybe she will open up to you...who knows why the coat was left there. God's handiwork! I suppose HE thought you were up to the task, as I know you will be, too.
Sometimes talking to strangers is so much easier...as I have found in these threads.

I know what you mean, there were still some of my WH's clothes here and at first it was hard to smell his scent, it made me YEARN for him and wish he was holding me tight. But now all his $hit that remains is in the garage. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> Did I say that?!


"Love the life you live, live the life you love." Bob Marley BS(me)37 WH(37) DS1 Dau from prev M 16 Married 4/06 D-day 6/06, again 11/06, again 4/07 Plan A'd all over the place, then Injunction 10/07, WH moved in with OW WH has own place 12/07 1/08 Plan B
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Thanks for the vote of confidence Free2!

I'll bet your house is lots easier to keep clean with all H's stuff in the garage! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

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Gosh, don't you lose weight walking? Seems like mom and I have walked a couple hundred miles in the last 5 days, and I got on the scale today and am the same weight. On top of that, I've been eating salads, no junk food, no sugar, no wine.

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MUSCLE WEIGHT..LOL..

Believer, they've been trying to talk us into THE SWEATS... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

WHAT SAY, YOU?


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LOL,

Not even representative sweatshirts that support my kids?


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Hi goddesses! You all inspire me even though I just lurk here!

I found some pretty & warm goddess loungewear at softsurroundings dot com-- the outlet. Washable velvet cami & pants. Don't know if they still have them, but that is one of my favorite sources. I only allow myself the outlet/sale stuff, however.


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You see that's what I was afraid of..

If I OK the sweats, then somebody would want to wear them OUTSIDE the HOUSE...

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />


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(Hey Skins, How are you today?!)

Ladies the velour pants are awesome! Kind of like the yoga pants mentioned earlier, which I love too. Velour "hugs" you in all the right places <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> are so soft on the outside (also bonus points in case you rub against your WH) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> and they are comfy and moveable (is that a word?) like sweats.


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