I changed my user name because husband may be looking at this site. I found his profile on sex sites which he has denied in past ... a co worker did this to you had to look at pictures. He were going to counseling but it wasn't getting us anywhere. Anyway I recently found two sites after he said he wasn't on those previous ones. I just have know if he is willing to cross that line. I made up a profile and contacted him. He contacted me. He added me to his im. We have had small chit chat but nothing more has evolved. I asked who he was when first im'd me. He said I contacted him. He said that it was from site that he didn't think he was on anymore the site apparently contacts you by email when you are contacted. Should I continue to see if wnats to meet? I was going to ask if he had ever met anyone but since he used the excuse that a friend signed him up. I'm just sick about this. Can anyone give me advice? I do want to work this out hoping he wouldn't cross the line. I ordered a few books but they haven't arrived. Do they have any of these at the library?

K

Here's what I'd do if I was in your situation....

Men are typically visually-driven. I'm assuming you haven't posted a picture under your profile yet? Post one of a gorgeous woman your age or younger, and wait to see if he initiates any further contact with you. Make sure the image is amateur-looking enough so he doesn't suspect that it's one you grabbed from a magazine or website. If he does contact you, and his messages suggest that he's interested in meeting you, that should be enough to tell you that he's actively on the lookout for contacts on that site that grab his attention.

And he says that a friend signed him up? Did he gave that friend's name? That sounds like baloney to me.