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#2009433 01/13/08 12:35 PM
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I have spent a lot of time on this board in the past few months, time that I don’t necessarily have. I have actually given up some free time and cut down time on some hobbies to be continuing posting here. But, it must come to an end. Here are my reasons for leaving and they are not in any particular order:

1) There are still constant hostility toward my posts and that hostility extends to my supporters, particularly Orchid. I am leaving in hope that it will ease the tension toward them.

2) I believe my posting here has caused or at least one of the reasons that caused SMB and tst to leave. My posts are appreciated and valued by some; however, I do believe that their advice and opinion are more valuable than mine and I hope that my voluntarily departure will make the possibility of them returning here to assist people who are in need of their help. Their continue recovering and ability to assist others in need FAR outweighed my current need to learn and grow on this issue.

3) I am getting busier this year and my responsibility has expanded and grown. My posting and reading here have been time consuming and distracting and I need to put a stop to it.

As some of you have already noticed, my intentions are good and I hope I will be remembered that way, if not, that’s fine too, as long as I am no longer being accused of being the OP or WS.

There are few stories that really touched me and these betrayed spouses are still in need of help and assistance. Everyone, please do me a favor and continue to post to the following people: saralynn77, phoenix4, missalot, serenitysoon, mvg, and especially sinkingin, who lurks around but do not post much if at all. If you bump up her post once in a while, she might respond.

I have learned and grown from reading and posting here and it’s time to say good-bye. Take care everyone.

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Please!! MBer's!!

Let's send him on his way and wish him well,,hoping he never really needs this board in his future!


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1) I hold no personal hostility toward Orchid. I tend to like Orchid overall.

2) They left because you stalked them. The truth is what it is. They stated it in their posts upon leaving. Your "belief" that it is "at least one of the reasons" must be altered to be "THE REASON" they left.

3) I am glad that you have come to understand that you had a problem with some connection to this website that was not healthy for you.

I do not know of your intentions, as you never really did tell us the whole truth of your story. I can only say that I hope you get help for the problems you face in your own life. I hope that what you have learned here goes beyond learning of the pain of adultery and betrayal.

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good riddance!


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Now Justuss, I've used that line over and over...especially on Mel, and it has never been edited.


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Always on point, Mel.

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good luck to you BA. I hope this doesn't mean you will show back up with yet another moniker.

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hoping he never really needs this board in his future!


I, for one, do hope that you never have to deal with infidelity.

I didn't keep up too much with the controvery surrounding your presence here, but I am aware that there some did exist.

I wish you well.

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Now Justuss, I've used that line over and over...especially on Mel, and it has never been edited.

Yes, he has, you weinerhead! **snort** <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


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I PRAY that you will focus on ENJOYING your life and having FUN...

Maintain POSITIVE associations..Flee from the NEGATIVE..

CHOOSE JOY..rather than staying in the MIDST of PAIN...


I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> **snort**


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kum-bay-yah

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BA, don't continue to repeat the same mistakes on LoveShack. Come clean over on that board too. Your approach is very deceptive.


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I pray that you STOP stalking and hurting people on internet support forums. I wish this BOARD and the people you harmed WELL.


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It's Kum-Bah-Yah

Kum-Bah-Yah


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Now Justuss, I've used that line over and over...especially on Mel, and it has never been edited.

Dang! Justuss does this mean that I can't tell BestAdvocate to "talk to the booty, cuz the hand's off duty!"??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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FWW ~ 47 ~ Me
FBH ~ 50 ~ MrWondering
DD ~ 17
Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered

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sorry mimi,

my bad

kum-bah-yah


I have a Texas accent, you know.

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<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

Seriously, Let him go IN PEACE....

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I'm slow. I didn't understand what you meant... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

FINALLY "got it."

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Now Justuss, I've used that line over and over...especially on Mel, and it has never been edited.


I didn't edit ANYTHING yet. Although I do have my finger poised over the ** key, loaded and ready! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

He must have deleted it himself.


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See, Justuss, I'm just singing in anticipation of the lovefest for BA's exit.



kum-bah-yah


Trying to keep things nice, here. Setting the mood.

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