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I will wear mine at least until the D is final.
I'm still considering what I'll do with it after that.
I think I'll probably give it to WW with my 'goodbye' letter.
Me - 32
DS - 5
DD - 13
DSD - 9
D final 12-8-08
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Oh, I also threw out the nice watch she gave me for christmas, all her photos and anything that reminded me of satans little sister.
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I took mine off after DDay in June and made my WS move to her parents. She wore her's for 4 months while we were going to MC. After OMW and I found out they were still seeing each other, OM called off the A and WW's fog rolled in. She said we were done and stopped wearing it. She is seeing another OM now, but I saw her at a bar with her friends and she was wearing it. She said she only wears it to work, so nobody would ask questions at her new job. She probably still gets a lot of compliments on it at work. I wonder if that makes her feel strange at all.
I'm waiting for the day we can both wear them and have them mean something again.
BH- 33
WW- 31
DDay- 6/07
Separated
A ended 10/07
A2 - WW dated OM2 12/07 - 2/08
Agreed to R 2/08, but WW not serious.
6/08 - ILYBINILWY - No longer wants R.
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I threw mine at FWH on D-Day #1 and never got another one.
As a BS, I don't know WHAT the deal is, but it's like we put out a scent or something...you start getting hit on left and right. I got myself into some pretty sticky situations without a wedding ring on.
10 months later, after a false recovery, I went to Plan B. I really wish I had a ring on then because it is DANGEROUS to not have one on. I was vulnerable and again got myself into some sticky situations.
I say the BS should ALWAYS leave their ring on until the D is final, if that is what ends up happening.
The last thing a recovering M needs is to have to deal with TWO affairs. It's hard enough dealing with one.
Me,BW - 42; FWH-46 4 kids D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006 D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR) Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007 In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks. 
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I will wear mine until D'd - period. It reminds me I am still her husband, for better or worse, in good times or bad. ...not that she deserves me... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> L2F
If God is a DJ, life is a dance floor, you get what you're given, it's all how you use it... Pink
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Well, I had mine on past D-Day. However, there was a gathering I went to (birthday party of a friend of my DDs) and WS showed up and so did OW. WS proceeded to parade around OW as she filled the guests ears about how horrible I was and everyone ignored me basically until I gathered up the kids and left. Before I left I handed him my ring as he looked at me bewildered. From then on mine and his rings sat inside the center console of his truck. Then OW left his truck keys in her car with her door unlocked and so his truck was stolen as was everything inside including the rings. I took that for a sign.. He says its an excuse to get me a better one once he 'comes back'. Bleh!
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