Post deleted by txbrokenheart75

Don't show your hand first thing.

A cheating spouse will deny, lie and berate you until you belive there is no affair.

Get pictures.

Put a digital voice recorder in the car.

Key log the computer.

Gather ALL phone records and text messages.

If oyu can, steal his phone and use a camera to take pictures of the text messages.

THEN expose, expect things to go totally nuclear.

You gotta have your ducks in a row.

tx, I'm going to put a copy of your first post so that folks can get the additional info you've posted. It's usually best to keep all your info on a single thread - because it make it easier to follow your story.


txbrokenheart75 wrote:


Not only is it common for them not to talk about it, it isn't really uncommon for them to deny it even if they are caught in a hotel room together.

Do you have a digital camera (or even a regular camera) so that you can take a pic of his vehicle in the drive/parking lot?

Post deleted by txbrokenheart75

You've already had your DDay.

Thus...

May I suggest...

IF you see his car there, take a picture on your cell phone and then immediately drive to her parents home. From your other thread it appears you have yet to expose this affair.

Optional....honk your horn in front of the house until they come out or otherwise indicate they KNOW you are there or ONE minute whichever comes first. Then drive over to her parents home...without any forewarning whatsoever.

Do NOT confront them. Doing so on HER property often leads to YOU getting in trouble. YOU are better than her in every way. Wrestle with a rat...wake up with the Black Plague.

Mr. Wondering

Did you ask him to write a no contact letter?

txbrokenheart75

If I was in your situation and if I knew what I now know..........I'd for sure go driving by OW house. If your WS is there...........I'd go to all the neighbours houses and make them aware of the situation.

See if they will give you support. Give them your number and tell them that you are trying to save your marriage.

Ask them if they will contact you when they see that further contact is being made.

Their eyes will be everywhere........that's for sure.

I'm so sorry that you are in this situation and I'm feeling with you.

All I can say from my situation is that some neighbours of the xOW in our situation must of had an eye on xOW house. Because long before the affair was exposed, there were people talking about "our marriage" and that something was not right. (before I even knew it) and some of xOW neighbours knew us and knew for sure that it was my husbands car in their driveway....visiting xOW when OWH was gone to work. (we had our business advertisement on the car.....BIG and very EASY to read).........how dumb is that??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

I also remember one woman that used to post here........her story was very different and yet it ended successfully. She tossed all of her husbands belongings outdoors and she put up a sign.........something like: These are the belongings of a Cheating Husband!!!!!!

You surely don't have to knock on OW door if he is there.......there are plenty of other ways to let him know.....hat YOU know. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
hugs
bb

Take your set of keys to his car, set of his horn panic button, could help if he parked in her garage.If it's out doors, be ready to take his or their picture when they come out

Or, take his car and leave yours for him, this one leaves no denying... GF

Post deleted by txbrokenheart75

My plan if I ever caught my W at OM's apt was to take the wheels off her car. Let her call trying to explain that her wheels were stolen at (insert lie) then have her come home to see them in her spot in the garage.

I hope I never have to implement that plan, but if I do, I'll take some pleasure in it.

Tyk- That actually made me LOL. I needed that.