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I am in a struggle with my marriage right now. I don't think I was ever physically attracted to my spouse. We have been married a long time. We have had a comfortable relationship but there was never a spark when we look at each other or touch or anything. Is that normal or ok?

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Welcome to MarriageBuilders, Zen...

You've come to a great place to have a great marriage.

I strongly suggest you move your post though (by cutting and pasting) to the Emotional Needs forum. This one doesn't get the traffic that one does.

And what you're describing is an Emotional Need...EN...Dr. Harley calls it "Attractive Spouse". Have you read his articles here on this website? Best place to begin is with the "Dr Harley's Basic Concepts" linked to the right of your screen.

When you move your post, will you please add more info, too? How long married, how many, if any, children...maybe a list of which ENs your wife meets well and which ones she doesn't...same for you...which ones of your wife's you think you meet well and which ones you don't?

There are questionnaires you can download here...ENs, Love Busters (LBs) and Recreational Inventory. Great stuff...for great marriages. Maybe even like you've never had before.

Welcome.

LA


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