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My husband had a short-lived affair last fall. The OW in this situation had another man waiting in the wings just in case the A with my H went bad. I found out-it went bad-she moved on to this other person in 3 days. Question: Do I tell this other person, who was seeing her at the same time, that she was with my H at the same time she was seeing him? I know the other person in question, and have known him for a long time. He is a very nice guy and does not deserve to be lied to. What do I do?
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I'd tell him. If you didn't know him at all, I might say no, but since he is your friend, you have a sort of obligation.
Cheating could not survive if we all looked out for each other - and I mean look out for the cheatee and cheater.
It is rare for a truly happy woman to try and take a child away from it's father.
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Tell him. Why not?
I'll always have one eye on OM. If he ever becomes single for any reason, you can bet every woman he dates will find out about what he did.
He won't be able to find a partner at a polka when he's 70 if I can help it.
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Tell. This is your friend.
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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He won't be able to find a partner at a polka when he's 70 if I can help it. I'm sorry, Krazy, but you really had me LMAO with this!! Couldn't help it! And YES, TELL!! I had a similar situation before at least twice and I've never regretted telling the betrayed party. It was the right thing to do.
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Charlotte, that sums it all up - "It was the right thing to do." You can never go wrong with that.
It is rare for a truly happy woman to try and take a child away from it's father.
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I'd be in favor of telling---but try a POJA-style conversation with your husband beforehand.
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