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Please if anybody can give me some advice. My wife has been dwelling on past arguments and says she is still hurting and unhappy. Our arguments started cause i wanted more undevided attention. She always ignores me and her friend is now everything she doesnt talk to me anymore and totally ignores me. She told me she is moving out and going on her own she has been making plans to move out soon. I suggested Marriage counsoling but she doesnt want to know anything she says she will never feel the same and nothing will make her change her mind. I do love her with all my heart i am sick every morning because i wake up with the thought she is going. Please please please what can i say to make her stay and try?
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This friend of hers, is it a he or a she?
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My wife has been dwelling on past arguments and says she is still hurting and unhappy.
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the old arguments that she keeps bringing up....what were they about?
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My wife has been dwelling on past arguments and says she is still hurting and unhappy.
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the old arguments that she keeps bringing up....what were they about? He said that the arguments were over him wanting more undivided attention.
Last edited by Garak; 01/16/08 11:23 AM.
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He said that the arguments were over him wanting more undivided attention.
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I was looking for clarification on that.
First he said she has been dwelling on past arguments and is still hurt and unhappy.
THEN he said their arguments started because he wanted more undivided attention........I don't understand why she would be hurt an unhappy over arguments that he wants more undivided attention....what exactly about the arguments leaves her feeling hurt and unhappy?
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He said that the arguments were over him wanting more undivided attention.
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I was looking for clarification on that.
First he said she has been dwelling on past arguments and is still hurt and unhappy.
THEN he said their arguments started because he wanted more undivided attention........I don't understand why she would be hurt an unhappy over arguments that he wants more undivided attention....what exactly about the arguments leaves her feeling hurt and unhappy? Ah yes, I understand what you are asking. What was said in those arguments that still haunt her? My questions: How much undivided attention were you requesting (ex, an hour per week)? How much undivided attention were you getting (ex, an hour per week)?
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What was said in those arguments that still haunt her?
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yes,exactly.
(hey, I think we might be communicating here)
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What was said in those arguments that still haunt her?
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yes,exactly.
(hey, I think we might be communicating here) LOL, yes we get along but there will be always be some friction. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
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LOL, yes we get along but there will be always be some friction. *************************** Naturally, you are a man and I'm a woman. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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I suggest that you drop to your knees and pary. Ask her to pray with you. You can also find a clergymen to help you through this. Read His Needs/Her Needs together with her...the "Covenant of Marriage" is another good book to read.
If she still have a desire to leave, get yourself ready for her departure...
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