Not sure if this is the correct area in which to post this but I wanted to say that true recovery IS possible. I know from my own experience that it is difficult to believe that it can be so; I didn't believe true recovery could/would be possible, especially because the affair involved my H and his XW, but nearly 2 1/2 years after finding out I can truly say that not only have we recovered, our marriage is stronger than it has ever been and we continue to learn & grow.

Even though I sooo wanted to end the marriage and wipe him out financially (only because that would hurt him the most) something told me to hang in there - to wait & see - to not make decisions when I was such a complete & total emotional mess. I consulted my attorney re the laws of our state and decided to stay & see how things progressed. I purchased the Marriage Builders home study courses and although we didn't finish them they helped a lot.

The ride was very choppy at times especially due to my roller coaster emotional state. At one of my lowest points I had a one-on-one telephone counseling session with Dr. Harley which helped a lot.

Besides the aforementioned help of Marriage Builders the turning point for me, the thing that helped me truly begin the road to healing was a self-less act of my H. He didn't realize it and at the time I didn't realize I needed it, his selfless act caused me to see past the pain and know without question that he loved me, even in all my understandable yet very difficult emotional craziness. It was at this point that I was finally able to begin to let go of the hurt & pain and truly begin to heal.

I am grateful to Marriage Builders for being a temporary place of refuge. I’m also thankful that for once in my life I followed my gut feeling rather than acting quickly due to emotion. It ended up being one of the best decisions of my life.

Hi Anngellica,

Saw your good report yesterday but could not post from work. So glad you shared it.....many are in need of hope and your story definitely provides that.

I was looking for success stories when I first registered for MB a year ago, but when they were hard to find, I started a thread with the hopes that many would link or cut/paste their success stories to it. Now I'm trying to keep it visible so newbies and others can be inspired in the midst of all this misery.

Would you consider linking or pasting your story there? The link is in my sig line. Or if it's OK with you, I would be willing to do it for you. Just let me know.

Again, thanks for sharing.

Ace