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The problem I see is that unless your WH is totally repentant, I don't see how you can rebuild your marriage.


Agreed. For my H, this came after PLAN B.

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I don't really think that if I just "love" him enough by meeting his EN that will convey to him how awful his adultery is. I feel that I have been doing a semi plan A for the past 7 months. All I've seen from him by doing this is more of a secretive, cocky, and unrepentant WH.


I agree with NEAK. Full-blown, not semi Plan A, briefly, and THEN PLAN B.

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For a marriage that is either recovering from adultery or has not been damaged by it, I think they would do a stellar job of making it better.


I think you may have misunderstood, especially SAA. The PLANS are for marriages in the midst of adultery.

I can't explain it any better than the Harleys to you.

It SEEMS to me that you don't understand the approach and I don't know how to help you. I wish I could. I think you have the PERFECT scenario for this approach to be helpful in leading you to marital recovery.

I wish you well.

I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.