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1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol - that our lives had become unmanageable.

2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

5. Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

12.Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

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So many newly betrayed really, really need to start with STEP ONE...

It changed the whole process for me when I accepted that I had NO POWER over my WH and his ADDICTION...

And in conjunction to that came STEP TWO..turning it over to GOD..

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Thinking we have power & control over others is vanity & fear run amok

took me a long time to make this work in myself

HEY Mimi, howz come you did not comment on my nifty new tag line? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

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I was digging that FABULOCITY! Kept meaning to tell ya.. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />


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I've only SOLIDLY accomplished 1,2 and 3. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />


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My girlfriend sent me a greeting card with this on it - made me giggle <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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7 & 10 are hard for me - because I am so fabulous ! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

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But you definitely are FABULOUS..

I say..go ahead and OWN it...

I'm not only FABULOUS. I'm also GLAMOROUS. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />


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I'm not only FABULOUS. I'm also GLAMOROUS. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

NOT today I'm not ! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

I am home sick
bones ache
eyeballs sting
nose is so stuffy I am mouth breathing

I am wearing clothing and a thick bathrobe and a blanket sitting in front of the fire with the house heater on high - and I am STILL freezing


<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

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"PRETTY IS..as PRETTY does"...

I feel glamourous and fabulous on the INSIDE..even when I'm not that way on the OUTSIDE..

Sorry, you're feeling bad, Pep...


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back to bed for me

TTFN

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These saved my life from alcohol and drugs...

Now I need to implement them with my WH. Way much harder I think. But I have up for the challenge.


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Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
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Hey Pepper, just a quick note, I appreciate you're pulling up alot of the threads you have. The ones from Dr. Harley, threads like this, etc. They really DO help us getting older newbies. Thank you!

I noticed your sig line and thought, WOW now that's the right attitude! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hope you feel better soon!


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pep...

as one nurse to another...

you look like crap....

and what mimi says....crap....

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

nurses are telling it like it is these days....
no more empathy...it's way way too draining...

Arkie....

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Arkie - If I look like I feel, "crap" is a compliment & a step up !

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At my AA meeting tonight, I admitted to two women about my addiction to my H. I actually feel kind of free right now. I am in a process of accepting it for what it is and learning to give it away. Practing these steps in all my affairs.

One suggestion was to buy some balloons, put my H name and other things on them and let them go up to G-d. What do you think? I would be saying the 3rd step prayer as I did it.


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D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
WH and OW broke up 1-09
Started over 7-09

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