I put one of those free keylogger programs on our computer. Left it running while I went to work, knowing he'd come home to see the kids and maybe use the computer. Sure enough he did! So it left his password and a text that he sent online to "her."

I read it, while he was still here, then he walked over to rub my shoulders and I pushed him away! The crap he tells her is stuff he used to say to me. Oh they are so in love and can't wait to spend their lives together!! Makes me want to throw up!!!

Come to find out after he came home this summer to "try" and make our marriage work, she contacted him saying how much she missed him etc! And then it went on for over a month and then he finally told me "things aren't working"

I'm so mad! and sad! I was sooooo close to calling her and letting her know that we still have sex! I'm sure she'd love to hear that! He cheats on her!!! How are they ever going to last! ugh!! I'm sick to my stomache and it's giving me a headache!! I have not been outwardly mad at him until I read the text he sent to her this afternoon, from my computer, hey sexy girlfriend, can't wait for you to get home from work, I love you! puke!!

So needless to say I've been bawling my eyes out!!

Serenity,

Breathe....

Feel the feelings. They won't kill you. Just what you do with them will....

Remember he is a WW, a SICK, ALIEN who is not your HUBBY. It's all about HIM. She isn't getting YOUR HUBBY. She is getting someone you DON'T WANT.

Keep breathing... Talk to G-d and keep praying....

{{{{{{{{{Serenity}}}}}

You are G-d's greatest miracle and will make it through this.....

Sorry to hear it.

Well, you have the info you need, so now develop your plan and follow it.

Why don't people understand that they hurt themselves when they have affairs?

Are we not allowed to write "God" on here? Without Him I would be a mess, so hope we can!

Slight threadjack in answer to SYF's question:

Yes, you can write "God" here. SG is Jewish and her religious beliefs are that one does not use God's name out of respect for His holy name. Most Jewish people will write it as she does, with the dash in the middle.

Hope this helps-

Thank you JT for the explanation. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Makes sense to me!

One other thing... My relationship with G-d is the SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT spirit I have in my life and I am so glad that people on here understand how he works in our lives.

SS...I understand your pain...that's how i discovered my WW's PA...text messages with the most disgusting things being said. Even horrible things making fun of ME!...from both of them. Part of me wishes I'd never read them, but then again it makes me believe just how foggy they really are. It's like confirmation that they just aren't in their right mind.

Hang in there!!!

ILA

(((Serenity)))
Oh honey, I read your thread and logged on just to say hello and tell you how sorry I am about what you saw on email.

Now that I have removed WH from my home and I am standing back viewing "from above", I wish that I had kicked him out and went to Plan B immediately after I found out the FIRST time he cheated. I didn't b/c I was pregnant and without a job. If I had to do it over again though, I don't think that'd matter to me. This is just IMO...but would you consider taking yourself and the kids someplace to cool off for a while....a short stay with family or friends? I think it may help. Cry it out, get mad, whatever...actually I'm glad to hear you are mad. It's a nice change from being blue all the freakin time. One of the stages of grief remember.

Are you doing Plan A? I'm not a huge fan of it lasting for a long while. While I did enjoy being a better person and loving anyway in the face of his A, it made me feel more like a doormat and sucker than anything. After the sadness of Plan B kicked in, the reality is that I am much happier.

ILA, my WH and the OW used to make fun of me too. She called and left msgs on our home phone telling me just what they said. I'm tellin you, she is plain evil.

(((((Serenity))))

Ohh Honey....I am so sorry...hearing your story makes want to reconsider getting one (which brand did you use by the way???). This just totally sucks and I feel so bad for you. I wish I had something better to say to you, but as usual I am at a lose of words. The pain is more that you can bear, I know and you know I know.

Just work yourself through it, so you won't hold on to it forever...I'll check in with you later hon....


Not2fun

keylogger is totally free, just search on google and so easy to install and use, but honestly, I was in a better place not knowing the things they said to each other. ick!!

Serenity:

How can I help you begin to FOCUS on taking care of yourself?

Have FAITH that you can work on a PLAN for YOUR LIFE now regardless of what your WH is doing.

Let's wage a FIGHT..a WAR..against this AFFAIR!!

Don't let the AFFAIR win!!

Serenity,

I know it is really painful to see this stuff, I heard every voicemail the ow ever left for my FWS.

I can't say that I didn't go off once or twice, but I really used the info to better Plan A my H, if you will, to fulfill his needs and to make sure he wasn't able to have SF with ow! LOL. I know I took a great risk to my health, and that there are people here who would rightfully chew me out for that, and I am not suggesting you do this. I was very lucky that I did not get an STD. But I did get tested as soon as I found out. Have you been checked?

However, I learned to be wise as a snake and as innocent as a dove, my H does not know to this day how much I really knew. Some of the info was pure evil. And having all that info did prolong our recovery, because it IS very hard to deal with. I know that is how you are feeling now, and I sympathize with you. I am sorry, Serenity, I know how much this hurts!!

But the good thing is is that you have info that you needed in order to figure out what to do. I used it for plan A. And as I see you are in Plan A you do know that contact might continue during your plan. This is kind of a given. This info also helped me to know when to go to Plan B, to preserve my love for my H.

Don't let your WS know how you got the info. You can respectfully let him know how much continued contact hurts you. What you do know is that he is definitely a cake eater right now.

Please step back before you react. If you have done a good plan A and have been fulfilling your WS EN's, you might check your lovebank. It looks like you had a huge withdrawl from finding out info from the keglogger.

What would your plan be on how to deal with this?
(((((hugs!)))))You are WORTHY!!

Blessings,
Miss M <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Ditto, Miss M...GREAT POST!!

Why, thank you Miss Mimi, you have been posting some awesome stuff your self.

And, you KNOW you are WORTHY!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Love in Christ,
Miss M

My plan on how to deal with what? His emails and texts that are pathetic? I'm going to do nothing, but continue to monitor them. In one she was reasuring him that she wasn't going to go back to some other guy. HA! I hope she does, and I hope he finds out! He's been sleeping at her house since the day after Christmas. He comes and goes as he pleases. I've been fulfilling some of his SF- and the only LBs I've done was when I pushed his hand away when he tried rubbing my shoulders earlier, right after I read the icky emails. And on the phone the other night when I told him to tell a certain person from his work to STOP calling here for him.

I'm feeling a bit better, going to take a really hot shower to try and ease my aching tensed muscles.

Thank you!!!!

Your PLAN A, Serenity..

Serenity,

What Mimi said.

Use this info for your PLAN A.

Wise as a snake, innocent as a dove. This is WAR. Use this info to your advantage. You have way more info on who what when where, and you can USE this!!! Be a guiding light!!

Vent here. Do NOT react. No trashing ow or your WS in person, vent here about it.

Love in Christ,
Miss M

ah, gotcha now. I just have to be very careful not to log on to his email when he could possibly be logged on, that will be very tricky.

wise as a snake...innocent as a dove. I like that! SS, hang in there. ((hug))