Does Harley really have stories of marriages like this working out after the years of separation and all of these problems? I find this thread interesting, but I guess until there's a divorce it's NOT OVER. You'd both really have to forgive each other and not bring up the past to start over. Plus you'd have to work on the issues, and I'm sure it's not just gambling as all marriages have issues - when you go back I think you'll find a lot of the issues are still there if you didn't work on them. Perhaps you both could get the help of a counselor.