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Why do men e-mail women off the MB board?
Why do women e-mail men off the MB board?
Mr Wonderin is a married man, right?
Graplin is a woman right?
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Why do men e-mail women off the MB board?
Why do women e-mail men off the MB board?
Mr Wonderin is a married man, right?
Graplin is a woman right? Mr. Wonderin g and I share an email account Stella...Rest assured that it's all good! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Mrs. W
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Perhaps the best policy would be to be totally honest both publicly and in private. IMO, total honesty would not entail half a dozen people hinting about a secret they think they have. Honesty would have been honoring the assertion that privacy and security would be of upmost importance. Very few long time members have links back to their original arrival and story, and information believed to be held back is often scattered through a number of threads as well as a number of years. IMO, honesty would be actually contacting the person believed to be dishonest, off the forum if that is where the supposed knowledge came from, and give them an opportunity to answer the charge.
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I am glad you are both women. Sorry that you had a problem e-mailing off board...... like i had with that other woman bible thumper off board. Good luck!
I was thumped and thumped before I was wise enought to cut her off. I say, let the Bible thumpers thump on each other every day if they want and leave the rest of us, Christians and Non-Christians ALONE!
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It isn't a contest.
I have not and am not requesting that people contact me offline for additional support. So, I'm not even in the running.
It is a statement of fact that several members in past few months have had their confidential emailed information published on the forum without their prior knowledge or permission.
I think people should be aware that a presumption of confidentiality is not a safe presumption to make when communicating with fellow forum members.
I encourage people to be wise and make an educated choice.
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Gossips are everywhere. Every part of life. No way around it. once you find it out, avoid them.
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Stella, I have never communicated via email with Mr. W.
Since I have not communicated personal information offline, I have not been a victim of confidential information being made public as some members have had.
My husband and I share accounts and I do not communicate with other men off or online without his knowledge and participation.
My concern was not for myself, but for less experienced members who may not realize that not everyone has the same standard of confidentiality they may have.
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I am glad you are both women <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> Um Stella, Mr. W, I can assure you, is a MAN...I am his wife...We share an email account...Can't speak for graplin... Hope this clears up any confusion for you... Mrs. W
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Since the ethics of strangers are entirely suspect, confidential information should not be shared with strangers. GGW, I need to learn how to sum things up as well as you did. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
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graplin...
The problem you are having is ascribing nefarious motives to people here...It is telling a LIE that is BAD...That is NOT the same as EXPOSING a LIE...There is NOTHING wrong with exposing a lie...
With the logic that you are using I can presume that you think that the purpose of exposure of a wayward is done to hurt the wayward...That is NOT the case...Exposure HELPS the wayward...Just as exposing a LIE, ultimately HELPS the liar...
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actually, IMHO, you would do better to just stay out of this. YOU brought more attention to this issue than anyone else. I've noticed though that when a pot needs stirring, there is no shortage of posters standing in line..ladle in hand...of course, always ready with the victim lines when they get called to the carpet.
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People in the middle of betrayal or waywardness aren't always operating at their peak, I get the feeling this isn't what Mr. W is talking about...this stuff is a GIVEN. Mr. W, are you referring to people (not necessarily someone specifically) who is, say...lying by omission? Or withholding information from a public forum that could change the standing they have with the public? I am just wondering. I normally don't get involved with ****** threads because...well for a relative "newcomer" (here less than a year), ***** has done a mighty good job of starting up or supporting many of the "controversial" threads. *****EDIT*****that plus the fact that we know NOTHING of his/her/it's story.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> I dunno...am I the only one who steers clear of*******threads for these reasons?!?!?
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If someone is on the site...actively misleading or deceiving others, I think they should be exposed. I would consider the posters that would prod the person to reveal the information themself to be doing a service to both the person and the board.
Complaining about others because they chose to help expose dishonesty is way off base IMO. I don't really care how the information was obtained.
Live your life honestly and you'll have nothing to worry about.
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I am a firm believer in the use of exposure as a tool to end an affair.
I do not support the publishing of private email sent from someone who was seeking your support in confidentiality.
If there was concern about honesty, why were these individuals not contacted in privacy to answer whatever charge you wanted to make?
That was not done, was it? People who trusted you in private were not given the opportunity to address whatever questions you had about their veracity in private.
Instead, the confidential information they had given while seeking your help was made public on the forum without their permission, without their knowledge, and without the opportunity to answer to your charges.
There is no justification for that, IMO.
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I am a firm believer in the use of exposure as a tool to end an affair.
I do not support the publishing of private email sent from someone who was seeking your support in confidentiality.
If there was concern about honesty, why were these individuals not contacted in privacy to answer whatever charge you wanted to make?
That was not done, was it? People who trusted you in private were not given the opportunity to address whatever questions you had about their veracity in private.
Instead, the confidential information they had given while seeking your help was made public on the forum without their permission, without their knowledge, and without the opportunity to answer to your charges.
There is no justification for that, IMO. graplin, I have no idea what you are talking about in this post, however, in the case you referred to earlier in which some posters hinted at a secret, this was not information that was shared in a "private email" but on a board with SEVENTY PEOPLE. The person with the secret shared it HERSELF. However, I have no idea what you are talking about when you say something was made public on a forum that came from a "private email" so maybe you need to be more SPECIFIC. Even so, there most certainly IS justification for sharing "confidential" information given in emails. If someone told me they were having an affair or molesting a child, etc, I WOULD have a moral obligation to expose it.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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The forum's private messaging was deactivated due to misuse by a few members. However, misuse can continue via private email and chat. Point of Order: Because of the nature of this forum and the opportunity for emotionally vunerable males and females to communicate, and where that could lead, the Harley's felt it best not to enable the MB PM feature. It has never been turned on. Someone has mis-information, and is attempting to perpetuate it. Jo
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That was not done, was it? People who trusted you in private were not given the opportunity to address whatever questions you had about their veracity in private.
Instead, the confidential information they had given while seeking your help was made public on the forum without their permission, without their knowledge, and without the opportunity to answer to your charges. Graplin, It seems you know a lot of details about whatever situation you apparently seem to be referring. How do you have these details? through emailing privately with others from this board? It seems you have a rather manipulative motive here. Your original thread put on an air of concern for newbies who might be vulnerable to someone whose motives may not be pure. But as this thread develops, it is apparent you have an ulterior motive.
Happily married to HerPapaBear
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Well graplin, we care immensely for this forum...We credit the information that we've gleaned here with saving our marriage...We are very passionate about this place for that reason...We when see the good people here being DECEIVED, we take issue with that...If you place confidentiality over TRUTH then that is FINE, we do NOT...
Mrs. W
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and p.s. graplin, you have brought more attention to this persons SECRET than anyone else with your endless allusions.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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