"I think that it is every BS's dream to have the WS crawl back, whether we allow them back in or not"

Yes, that was always my hope until it actually happened. Then it made everything seem such a waste. The fantasy affair/soulmates didn't exist.

I have been in Plan B for over 3 years now and still avoid contact. But ex keeps showing up. He knows I have someone else, and my guy knows that ex is still around. He doesn't like it, and that is one reason I avoid my ex.

Ex could never go long alone, and he has been by himself for almost a year, so I'm sure he will find another woman.

And remember, ladies, I am much older than any of you, very poor, and not much to look at. But there are still plenty of men giving me a shot.

LOL! As my Grandma syas, "Pretty is, as Pretty Does". Obviously, you are a Goddess, Believer.

I'm glad the old coot came back, just so you could say No thank you.

~Free

uhmmm B.....you obviously aren't that old if you can go out wearing F-me shoes............LMAO....HAHAHAAHAHHH

Believer,

First of all, you aren't that much older than most of us. I see quite a few of us on this board who are over 50. So there.

Secondly, I've seen your picture on the MB Photo Thread, and I think you are a beautiful woman. I read a lot of posts from you before I even saw your picture, and just from those posts, I knew that you were a beautiful person both inside and out.

Thirdly, anyone who takes so much of their time and energy to post here and help others, and who also appreciates the finer things in life as you do, is NOT poor. Believer, don't you see that is why so many men are giving you that shot? You are a Goddess, not just some piece of eye candy with an empty head and heart. Personally, I've been glad that I met you here on MB.

So there!

Ditto

I've also seen the pic. You rock!

I agree with that.

Where can I view this MB photo album? I didn't even know there was a photo album!

Believer

I'll say it again--you are are an awesome goddess and one of my personal MB heros. You're personal recovery and your outreach to others here is so amazing--it's no wonder you have so many men falling all over you! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

I agree with those who say that you still have some feelings for your ex, but I too think that is a function of being connected with another person for so many years.

Like you, Shattered, Chai - the issue for me comes down to respect on both counts. I started losing respect for him prior to the A to be honest, but I lost total respect for him after the A and his refsual to try and work on the M after D-Day. Also, I cannot forget the way he disrespected me in so many ways during his A. I don't want a spouse like that -- I deserve so much better than that.

And Bob Pure -- right on the money. If I even considered taking WH back it would be a RESTORATION project. He is going to be a complete mess when all is said and done with OW -- emotionally, psychologically and financially. It's not worth it to me -- there are too many other wonderful people in the world to share life with. My prayer for him now is that one day he will have the ability to be strong enough to build himself back up to where he could/should be -- with God's help.

Anyway, enough about me..I know you'll do what is best for YOU!

Smartie