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Re: What if OW continues to try to communicate? After NC
Tyk #2015232 01/26/08 10:08 AM
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My husband and I went on vacation 1 week after D-Day(pre-planned). The OW attempted to call his cell phone more than 50 times in the 1st week. We finally decided together that I would answer the next time she called. I picked up the phone, said, "Hello *****, this is WH2LE, I know everything, don't call again." She hung up without speaking.She tried to call a few more times that night but then not for the rest of the vacation .

We changed his cell number as soon we got home. For a few months she attempted to make some phonecontact but it finally petered out.

We hadn't read SAA yet, but a NC letter waouldn't have had the dramatic effect it should because the OW doesn't speak much English.

Is it possible to just wait her out? I know this isn't always the most popular idea but sometimes it works.

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Re: What if OW continues to try to communicate? After NC
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The letter is the most effective method because neither BS or WS has to speak to the OW and it leaves with the OW with a LETTER in her hand. She can't romanticize or rewrite history with that letter in her hand. That is why Dr. Harley recommends it.

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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