This post if for my brother. They were married for 15 years and have two teens. She has been caught cheating several times in the last 4 years and he finally reached the point of no returned and filed. Before he caught her she asked for a separation and moved to her moms leaving him with the kids. She was very cruel and hurtful towards him.

Well he discovered the most recent affair, filed and now she's driving him nuts. She pops in the house all the time, calls him and emails him constantly begging him not to continue the divorce and swearing undying love ( the same things she said to the other guy as well)

She doesn't seem to understand the concept of divorce. Last night she came to visit the kids and my brother fell asleep on the couch from exhaustion. At midnight he woke up and went to his bedroom and she was in there asleep. He called me this morning all wigged out about how she doesn't seem to "get it" that he is going through with the divorce. Yet he keeps saying he does want her to come see the kids etc.

They didn't have sex or anything but she is slowly trying to ease her way back into the picture. She even left her makeup bag so she would have an excuse to go there tonight.

He went to talk to his lawyer and he just laughed and said he's seen this a million times. They always want to reconcile once you file even when they were the ones leaving first.

Can anyone gives some advice that I can forward on to him about setting boundaries. He is on antidepressants and they seem to make him numb to appropriate responses when he should be mad as heck at her for what she has put him through the last years. Also I can't imagine the mixed messages this sends their kids.

First change the locks. Then make it clearer to her that it is OVER. Maybe with a letter since she isn't listening to his words.

Your brother letting her get away with what she is doing only encourages her more.