I hear a lot about fog speak and alien talk. Which don't get me wrong I think is a great analogy. But when I look at my husband the reality is Satan has control over his heart. Satan whispers to you "hey your wife doesn't respect you" "if she loved you she would do this" "you deserve to have this A" And when we turn our heart away from God we start to believe Satan's lies. We give in to our selfish desires. I see it in my WH. His feeling that he has given to everyone else and now its his turn. And while I have my own pain from the A. I look at him and it breaks my heart that he is destroying himself. I realized this last year he has pushed everyone that used to matter to him away. I feel like one of the reasons I'm fighting for our marriage is because I also feel like I'm fighting for his soul.
And I know if he doesn't choose to leave her I will be forced to turn him over to his sin.
So sad.....
Thanks for letting me rant.

I agree wholeheartedly. We fall away when we choose to listen to the lies of the Deceiver.

Yes sweetie, you are exactly right. I know that's so in my case (someone *upstairs* told me so...). In that case, there's really little you (we) can do. Only God can save these men (WS's) from themselves. All you can do is pray.

Hang in there.

Hopefully God can save these W too! My WW is right there. "If (he) loved you, (he'd) do this.....you deserve to have this A".....I couldn't agree more. That's what my WW thinks.

I've never experienced anything as selfish as the approach of my WW.

I'll share some of my "fog" speak I have received this week alone.

Your whole family is crazy including you!

I wish I had left you 5 years ago, ****** I wish I had never met you!

Why don't you just go kill yourself!

Don't call me, I said I would call you!

Do you have cameras in my new place? ******, I'll leave the blinds open and SF a guy. Take pictures of that!

Who told you I was late to work today? (her cell account) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

I don't even want to see you much less talk to you!

I didn't abandon my home, marriage, husband, or pets! (really?)

I didn't cheat on you! (Lol)

I dress like a tart because I want to!

My thong isn't hanging out of my [censored] crack above my tight low waisted pants at work!

I bought the glittery makeup for work!

These 4" heeled knee high boots are to keep me warm!

I changed my hairstyle because another girl at work stole my doo!

You don't see my stomach in this tight sweater when I raise my arms!

You don't see half of my back or my pant wedgie when I bend over!

I quit wearing the $20,000 of jewelry you bought me because the plain look is in now, and no, you are mistaken because you didn't bust me at work or my company christmas party with my wedding ring off or on the wrong hand 3x!

My wedding ring is on the wrong hand because I put lotion on, and just put it on the wrong hand and finger!

How do you know I wasn't in Wal-mart for 6 hours? (receipts, honey)

I knew a girl years ago that was a fool for letting an "blank" manager go. He was perfect for her! (Newly separated "blank" manager at her work, ironically)

No, I have not abandoned house maintenance and cleaning to you alone for the last three months!

My bank account statements SHOULD be coming to the PO Box, no I DID NOT set up electronic statements!
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Yes, all this in one week. Plus, I think I even forgot a few! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Is this alien, satan, or the antichrist? Why do I even try to save this M? I just think she has really gone off the deep end, possible borderline personality disorder, and can't get her or any help from anyone trying to get her into counseling. Or maybe I'm just a masochist!

It was painful until I just started pretending her head was spinning around in circles while she talked trash like the girl in The Exorcist, then its almost like watching a comedy skit!

Wow, all that in a week? Yeah, I'd say she has definitely gone off the deep end. I don't see how you CAN'T eventually wake up from that much BS. I'm terribly sorry to hear about your situation, but I must say that some of those are so ludicrous that they are almost laughable.

I don't know how to combat that....sounds like you really have to work your plans until she comes around a little at least.

Best of luck!