I found out about 5 months ago that husband was an affair. We were having marital problems, and in June he moved out. Little did I know there was someone else. At the end of July he started coming around and saying he wanted to work things out. So we read His Needs Her Needs, and filled out the questionnaire. Fast forward to October he moves back in, but not himself ended up going on anti depressants thats when i found out about the affair. I guess my problem is for about two months he was so attentive to filling my emotional needs, and now its nothing. I talked to him about it, and he says his mind is so messed up. So what am I supposed to do? Keep meeting all of his needs while he ignores mine? I feel like I am the one being punished for his A i just feel unappreciated. I don't know if I should just leave him alone, and wait until he comes around.

You need to do some snooping and see if the affair is continuing.

If he was meeting all of your needs and he suddenly performed a 180 degree turn, then you can probably be safe in assuming that the affair has reignited. Its definitely time to do some snooping. Can you install a keylogger on your home pc? Check phone bills or text records? Start keeping a record of any period of time that you are not 100% sure where your husband is and bounce that off of any other means of snooping that you have.

Did he ever tell you who it was or did he leave you in the dark and try and sweep it under the rug?