My husband left in the middle of the night tonight because he got a message from OW saying how upset she was that he picked his family over her on Superbowl weekend and his 4 year old daughter's birthday party. He is completely addicted to this drug. I am powerless at this point. I know what you are going to say - fight for your man. But do I want to fight for a man that is so crewl and heartless to his wife and family? It hurts so much.

Do affairs die out? He is so torn between right and wrong. He knows how much he has messed up. But he still goes to her. He fell in love with her over the internet while in Iraq. He can't stop loving her and he tells me that he can not find feelings for me anymore. He cries all the time.

What happens to affairs over time? Be truthful with me - I can take it. If this is meant to be - let it be. But he is in a whirlwind situation and falling fast. I am afraid that he will fall so hard that he will not be able to live with himself over time.

Sally,

Stay with the same thread... you have three going now...

Some affairs last. The vast majority do not. The odds are, your H's will end.

Sallyg see if you can link all of your other threads to this so the rest of us can keep up on your sitch. As for how your husband is feeling mine is and has been going through the same thing. All i can say is he has now been gone for almost four weeks. He has told me and some of our friend s that the more time he spends with the OW the more he wants to come home.

They both know what they are doing is wrong and all i can say is be still and pray for comfort.

I am truely sorry you are here. you are in my thoughts.

Sally,


And listen to G-d as he directs you out of this wilderness. It will happen if you listen and let G0.

It hurts, I know. It's awful watching it happen. But like so many on here say, G-d loves your WH more than you do. He hates divorce and is working hard on the other side. Let him do his work.

take care of yourself, I know how hard it is. I truly do.

I think most of them do. I do know of at least two relationships however in our small community where the affair partners have gone on to marry each other and have remained married for several years.

I think your focus now though should be on Plan A - identify those top ENs of your H that are not being met in your M and meet them to the best of your ability. What EN do you think the OW is meeting for him?

Affairs don't last. Sure, everyone can point to an affair that turned into a marriage here or there. But the statistics are against the affair. 97% of them end.

It is good that she is lovebusting by telling him he chose the Superbowl over her. Just keep doing your Plan A and let her lovebust away. Sooner or later he will get tired of it.