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I wonder if SHE is ahaving an affair.

It does sound like she is immature and down right cruel in some ways. She obviously needs some mental help.

Perhaps seeking some help for her to get to the root of her problem would be in order.

Honestly, she's not the type to have an affair. Actually, she never leaves the house other than to go to work. She knew if she was cheating, that would be an automatic deal breaker. She is really just an immature person. I can't paint her as the devil because she has gotten better since our first year and she is a loving person (when she wants to be). But when she gets in those moments, she can cut a block of marble with that tongue. Her riding in a stroller until age 6 and sleeping with her parents until age 8 might have something to do with it.

so, what brings you to an infidelity web site?

Sorry, I am in the wrong forum. I saw General Questions, but didn't notice it was for Infidelity.

"only thing she can complain about is my weekend recreation"
What do you do for couple recreation? BBall Saturday, Couple recreation Sunday?

She is made at you for not meeting her needs. Not meeting needs may cause spouses to have affairs.

WS's project anger at BS's to justify their affair. That is why I and others suspect the chance of an affair.

"she never leaves the house other than to go to work"

OM can be a co worker, break and lunch time get together.
Claims of having to go in early or stay late due to Over time.

You are telling her by your actions that you value basketball more than you value her.

I think that she is very astute to see the danger of basketball. My husband needed downtime -- for football on TV, for volleyball leagues, for singing in the church choir, for running, then for training for a marathon. By the time he was having intimate lunches with a woman from work, he was long past the point of caring whether his choice of activity was negative for me or no.

Try this approach: "I won't do anything unless you view it as positive for you." See Harley's book, "Buyers, Renters, and Freeloaders."

Then find weekend recreational activity that your wife finds positive for her. Maybe you can do co-op babysitting with another couple, and the two of you can exercise together. The possibilities are limitless, unless you limit the possibility to weekend basketball.

Cherishing

He did this for 25 years. His wife is a control freak and he should not stop playing. She is the one that needs mental help.

I have to tell you Cherishing, your post is shocking. His wife is physically abusive....verbally abusive and obviously has a few screws loose and you are questioning HIS valuing his wife???


Would you tell a woman that was being hit by her husband and verbally abused that she should stay home all the time?

I really am shocked you wrote that post. You do not POJA with an abuser.