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Mortally,

I truly know how hard what is happening to you is. I do. I remember in the first few days and just a few days ago, the need to fix and look at everything.

Just a few things to note: Please keep posting on one thread. In the beginning I posted to many threads and I found it didn't allow people to connect to me or follow my story. We want to be here to support you and offer ideas, but we need to have a complete picture and jumping around doesn't help. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

As for your question, I actually get this person's newsletter when it comes out. It has some very useful information and in the beginning I remember just struggling to understand what was going on and what I could do to fix it.

I have found over time, that right here Marriage Builders is the most concise, consistent way to learn about things and it has people on here to respond back.

Please know that we are here to support you and want to. There is no quick fix, you have suffered a tremendous trauma that will last a long time.

I wanted to know what to do in the beginning, I was willing to sell my soul to get answers and fix things, but it wasn't to be. I am still very much in the process of this and the pain comes and goes horribly. I still read what he has to say, but I found that this site has helped me the most because it's so interactive.

I hope that helps and welcome other vets input.

In order to get the best help here, please stop opening up new threads.

That ebook is not good.

I bought it prior to finding MB.

It breaks down affairs into categories and gives strategies for each category. He also gives a percentage of your chances at success so finding your spouses category was important.

Problem was...I couldn't figure out which category applied to my situation. I wasted precious time and energy trying to figure out my odds based upon this dimwits estimations but several categories could fit every situation.

I did get some useful information from it...but much less than can be found on these boards....FREE!!!

Also...beware of any claims about how good or great Dr. Heizenga is...he employs the same affiliate marketing scheme as many other internet shyster's. These "marketers" give bogus reviews on Amazon (or anywhere their "boss" is mentioned), they post fake stories and testimony on forums like these trying to insert links either directly or conversationally and they set up fake websites promoting these guys and saying they saved their marriages. They then collect referral fees on anyone that links over and buys the crap.

Don't buy it. These guys prey on the desperation of hurting betrayed spouses and they are getting more and more aggressive doing so.

Mr. Wondering

I was wondering the same thing. I did spend almost $40 on an e-book... I can't believe I did that! I know the ads for Breaking Free almost had me convinced, I tell you I was sooo close to buying it!