Good morning all,

Just an update, the kids and I plus 1 dear friend attended the wrapup session at Landmark last night where my husband had been working all weekend. It turned out to be a good thing. The OW was not there. I made a strong presence introducing myself to as many of my H's "volunteer co-workers" and of course introducing his 2 beautiful kids.

I don't understand why my H has taken the path he has. The Forum Leader related many personal stories just on Tues night regarding his love and devotion to his wife (whom he almost divorced 30 years ago, before realizing what an A he was being), and 2 kids. He even emphasized the importance of ones word/integrity and related that to ones marriage vows. How my H can be so "into" this training and still take the path he did, so so confusing.

He did offer to give us all a ride back to the suburbs (we took the train to Chi), which when I asked him about us riding home he made the excuse he would be too late for us to wait around (even though the train wouldn't get us home until 1:00a.m.). But when my daughter asked, he said yes.

So survived the weekend and Tues, who knows what is next.

Thanks for your support and the cklist for Plan A was very heplful.

C-Cubed

Thanks for the advice, the kids have figured it out I'm sure. My daughter is angry and doesn't refer to her Dad as "dad" when talking in the 3rd person, but calls him by his first name. She does know how to play him when she wants something though.

My son is so sweet and innocent at 14. He supports me and I'm sure my daughter has filled him in. Last night at the seminar my son asked my H why he no longer wears his wedding band (not sure why he noticed that). My H gave him some excuse about getting it cause on equipment. My son suggested he wear it when he's not around equipment, like he could have worn it tonight! Are kids perceptive or what!

C-Cubed

bak, be sure and sit them down and give them the complete facts along with moral guidance. Kids should not be left to figure it out on their own; that is our job as a parent to give them guidance. Your silence will be interpreted as approval and will cause moral confusion and insecurity. They need to hear the FACTS and be told that adultery is IMMORAL and why it is immoral. If you say nothing, they will conclude that you must approve or don't care. They need your moral guidance now more than ever.