Crap, my X did the same thing, slept with her frigging cell phone.. Of course when I finally got to it when she was in the shower one day, I realized why, as it was full of her sex banter with her OM.. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />.

I would try your best to get your hands on it, I think it'll have all the answers you'll need. Or put a voice activated recorder in her room, and see what you pick up...

AGG

Block your number and call it from your cell. Its ringing will let you know where she hides it.

Wayzilla slept with her cell phone, her work phone, her purse, and her briefcase. Pretty subtle huh?

Just thought of this and found myself laughing at the possiblities..

You would obviously get caught, but after D-day who cares...

Once you get hold of her phone and find the info you are searching for, switch the SIM card from your phone to hers... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

So I hate to tell you but you're wife has been having an "emotional" affair for a while, and I'm sorry to say, its certainly turned physical at this point. She's showing all the classic signs, you said youself months ago she started regressing to being a teenager. What other than new love would make someone act that way? Seeming to float on air without a care in the world, least of all you and your children! From my experiances, you've waited too long to stop it, its CLEARLY gone physical at this point, maybe if you had confronted it early this horrible path she chose could have been avertied. At this point realize you're the better person, and stop living life in denial, your wife is gone. You just focus on being a great father and do whats best for your little girls, and you!! I understand that you're sad, and ****** who wouldn't be,but the time for sadness isn't now. Now is the time for a little anger, get some fire in your belly and act! There's plenty of time ofr sadness once the buisness at hand is over and done with. Best of luck sad, keep your chin up!

I know what you're all going to say, but thought I'd throw this out there...is she yanking my chain? We just got back from dinner, and it's amazing how she can be so "normal" for periods of time...talking to the kids and I as if all is well, and there's nothing to worry about. Even when I mentioned (briefly) about the OM being at our house for the Super Bowl, it barely phased her. She just maintained her story, of "he was there with another girl..." etc. She deserves an Oscar!

wayward spouses are master manipulators... DO NOT LET YOUR GUARD DOWN!

mlhb

They all deserve Oscars. It is part of the script.

Keep up the good work, the sooner you stop the A the sooner you will start to recover - with or without wayzilla

Ha, ya man, my W would revert to "normal" for weeks at a time, I'd start to question myself, and then like flipping a switch, WW would be back with the "I love you but not in love with you" song and dance.

Evidence is not the first course of action. First you need to be home and stay put. Need to man up .

There is no way a husband and father (and a man) should ever leave his house unless there is a court order. Personally I would have to be handcuffed or shot before I am forced from my home.

right now you are on the outside looking in - a spectator as your life gets flush down the toilet.

where does your wife stay on her nights out of the house?

In the meantime - you need to read up on the plans and educate yourself on how these affairs work and how to improve your marriage.

I got my hands on her phone this morning...nothing much in the way of "hard" evidence, but plenty of "soft". A bunch of gaps between dates, and nothing from him at all. Furhter a reference to staying at a girlfriends house tomorrow.

The mayhem that ensued from her "lost" phone this morning was priceless though. You'd have thought someone took one of her arms or something. She of course accused me of taking it...told me "you can have it, I don't care if you read it, I just want to know where it is etc." All while stalking around the house, and enlisting my kids to help look for it. She also called our cell carrier and reported it stolen within 5 mins. of not finding it....Then she emailed me from work apologizing for being immature, and for stealing the charger to my phone. She actually took the charger because her phone uses the same one, and she knew her phone didn't have much juice left! It would have been high comedy for me if it wasn't so gut wrenching.

Well, I'm back...its been a few days since I checked the site out, but I installed a keylogger which basically revealed my wife's remarkable editing and deleting skills! If you believe the "Inbox" in all 3 of her email accounts you'd think she only emails 5 times /wk. So at this point I don't know what else to do....she knows I'm suspicious, both phone/text and email have only raised my suspicion level, but haven't shown me anything concrete. Ugh! Any other ideas? I have a voice activated recorder in the car currently, but haven't had a chance to retrieve it and listen yet. It's been in there for 4 days or so now....

Patience. I know it's hard right now but don't tip her off any more than you have that you are searching. If she is having a PA then you will eventually find something. If she is in contact with OM through phone or email then it probably is at the very least an EA. Are you back to living in your house 100% of the time. If not, move back now. Don't enable her to have an A by leaving the house on weekends. Have you been able to contact OM's girlfriend? Start Plan A. You don't have to have relationship talk but you can work on your marriage without saying anything. Just become a better you and let her see it. Be the better man!