Does anyone have some books or tapes on overcoming effects of verbal abuse?

The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans.

Hi Free! Miss ya, girl!!

How are you...?

hey how did the cd turn out for your DD?

Look up www.drirene.com - there's some support there - and sometimes on a rare occasion, a "struggling-to-reform" abuser. So the appropriate cautions - but there is some excellent insight.

Thanks Frozen and Kayla! I will check into both of those this weekend. I looked up some stuff on the Internet and read some positive motivational things to confirm getting myself far away from this abuser.

Res, what's up sister girl!? How are you? I am doing pretty good. Went out this past Saturday dancing and had a great time. Ran into an old friend Tony, that I used to date when I was 18! He bought me a rose from one of those girls that walk around. He knows my sitch and that I am still married, but it is just so nice to have some positive attention and not be around a man that yells and calls names. He even said he'd like to go to church with me. lol! Men will try anything at the beginning huh?

Speaking of WH, I saw him yesterday and all we did was argue. And then all I did was cry afterward b/c he said some pretty hurtful things....incl that the OW was a better person than I...and that his next relationship was going to be so much better and that any new hoochie he met would be friends with the OW and her family...stuff like that which hurts to the core. So I told him I wished he was dead. Not good.

There is just no hope, and I'm telling you, the further away I get the more clarity I have that he is a toxic, abusive person who I need to steer clear from.

LH4E, I haven't made it yet, but I have the list compiled and I just have to find a site to download the songs. I'll prolly use i-tunes, unless you know of a free site. I am planning on giving it to her for Valentines. Thanks for asking.

So good to pop back in and check up on everyone's threads. Queenie is kicking a$$ isn't she?!

xo FREE

You could try Limewire.com that has fee music on it. I am not sure what others think of that site but i know it is free.

Awesome, thanks for the tip.

So, how are you doing these days?

Ugh, what a punk!! You are right, get your peeps all lined up for support and then Plan B for your sanity. Do you have a good intermediary so you don't have to see or talk to him at all? That would be best.

You're gonna be fine, sweetie! Did you read "justpeachy08" last night...she is a wonderful success story-her XH sounds much like yours. It may do your heart some good to read about it!

Hug your little cutie pie for me!

((((((FREE))))))))

The book "Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft is very very good.

ANYONE WHO IS IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP, READ THIS:

One day a scorpion is hanging around the side of a stream. A frog happens by on his way across the stream. The scorpion cannot swim so he stops the frog and asks if he can climb on his back for a ride across the water.

"Do you think I am crazy?" The frog says. "If I let you on my back, you'll certainly sting me and I'll sink in the water and die."

The scorpion replies, "Frog, alas I can't swim. If I sting you, then yes, you'll die, but I'll sink and die too."

The frog thinks for a second and decides that it makes sense, so he proceeds to give the scorpion a ride across the stream.

About halfway across the water, the scorpion stings the frog. The frog screams "What are you doing? Now we are both going to sink and die. I trusted you, scorpion. Why did you sting me?"

The scorpion simply says "Because I am a scorpion and it is my nature."

Think of your abuser as the scorpion, and you as the frog.

As you sink into the water, gasping your last breath, your abuser turns to you and blames you for not getting him across the river, and that you are dying on purpose, just to ruin his day.

THIS WAS FROM THAT BOOK BY LUNDY. GOOD REVIEWS ON AMAZON.COM. I AM DEF GOING TO BUY THIS ONE. I NEEDED TO GET OUT OF MY M WITH MY WH, EVEN IF I STILL HAVE FEELINGS FOR HIM. HE IS A VERBAL ABUSER....AKA LB'S!!!!!!

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