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After two years of a marriage neither one of us should have been in, DH and I decided to separate in October of last year. For the most part we were cordial to each other when we had to be, but recently his actions have become very strange. He is randomly driving by my house and calling and/or texting me over and over again. Most recently, my garage door opener just happened to be missing from my car and two days later, I come home and lights are randomly going on and off in my house. I called the police and they discovered that my back door was wide open and my garage door opener just happened to be in the grass in the backyard. To make matters worse, he started calling me back to back less than 5 minutes after the police left my house. He knows my every move and on the repeated messages he leaves on my voice mail, he is crying uncontrollably.
I HATE my state laws that make me wait a year to divorce this man, but I have to suffer the consequences of my bad decision. I just want this to be over so I can move on with my life, but the more erratic his behavior gets, the more I'm concerned that I won't live to get the divorce. This is a Lifetime movie waiting to happen. What should I do?
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After two years of a marriage neither one of us should have been in, DH and I decided to separate in October of last year. For the most part we were cordial to each other when we had to be, but recently his actions have become very strange. He is randomly driving by my house and calling and/or texting me over and over again. Most recently, my garage door opener just happened to be missing from my car and two days later, I come home and lights are randomly going on and off in my house. I called the police and they discovered that my back door was wide open and my garage door opener just happened to be in the grass in the backyard. To make matters worse, he started calling me back to back less than 5 minutes after the police left my house. He knows my every move and on the repeated messages he leaves on my voice mail, he is crying uncontrollably.
I HATE my state laws that make me wait a year to divorce this man, but I have to suffer the consequences of my bad decision. I just want this to be over so I can move on with my life, but the more erratic his behavior gets, the more I'm concerned that I won't live to get the divorce. This is a Lifetime movie waiting to happen. What should I do? Restraining order! He is stalking you and you have no idea what he is capable of. You already called the police when he broke into your house, go to the courts and file.
W (me) 44
H 43
Married 19 years
DS 17
DS 15
DD 13
DD 8
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Ditto--restraining order!!!!
And move if you think it will help, and anything else that might help: changing locks, phone numbers, keeping everything locked (vehicle) at all times, etc. Security system? Let friends and neighbors know so they can help look out for you. Google protection from a stalker and see what other tips are out there!!
Stay as safe as you can. Good luck,
J
Do not wait for leaders; do it alone, person to person. -Mother Teresa
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Hey, maybe get a BIG dog that's not good with men.
Divorced.
2 Girls
Remarried 10/11/08
Widowed 11/5/08
Remarrying 12/17/15
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Oh, and save the messages he leaves. If it seems like he may be a danger to himself, notify his closest relatives or the authorities. And definitely get the restraining order.
Divorced.
2 Girls
Remarried 10/11/08
Widowed 11/5/08
Remarrying 12/17/15
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If this marraige is something NEITHER of you should be in, why is he crying hysterically. Does he see the situation as you do??
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