How can you do a plan B while living in the same house? Has anyone ver done this successfully?

No, because the definition of Plan B is a separation. One can't be separated if they are in the same house. It completely defeats the purpose because it is impossible to detach from the WS when you see him at home every day.

Is there a reason he won't move?

My H has said he wants a divorce, refuses to work on the marriage, yada, yada. He won't leave because I know he is afraid of the finacial losses that he will suffer.

I need plan B to separate myself from his 'single' lifestyle, I have exposed to his family and friends, but he just doesn't care. I don't want to move because it is my house.

Currently we are living in separate parts of the house.

He has yet to contact a lawyer or go through any of the paper work of filing for the D. I don't have any hope of saving the marriage.

How long have you been married? Any kids?

There is always hope for a marriage, but if you feel you don't want to stay married, that is a different matter.

samarrah, then I would suggest that YOU file and get him removed legally. THEN you can go into Plan B. Living in separate parts of the house won't work, as you can probably see. Only complete no contact will suffice. People actually have nervous breakdowns from living like that, which is why Plan B is recommended.

He does not want a divorce at all. What he wants is to have his cake and eat it too. At your expense.

I've already had the nervous breakdown <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. I have recovered and improved my own life.

We have no kids and have been married almost 6 years. We have been together 13.

There was no infidelity on either side, just a whole lot of misundertandings and hurt, which resulted from a complete breakdown in communication.

He is a very stubborn man. He has never forgiven anyone who has crossed him in his life. He basically just cuts them out of his life. This is why I don't think there is any hope for the marriage.

I have done the best plan A that I could have. but I just have not seen any changes in his reactions. The only thing that I have seen is that he no longer hates me like he did months ago. I would still be willing to try and save the marriage, but he clearly does not show any signs of wanting to stay in it.

samarrah, plan A should last around SIX WEEKS. So if you are at the 6 week mark, I would contact an attorney and make plans to seperate.

Then file for divorce and have him removed. Then you can do a Plan B.

Were you mostly happy during your time together? Or mostly miserable?

There were periods of great joy, but looking back, there was a lot more hurt and anger than joy. I'm not sure we were ever compatible with one another. We fought so many times over such stupid things. Sometimes I think I stayed with him for so long out of loyalty.

He still tells me loves me and cares for me, just that he cannot be married to me and that we won't work.

Looking back, neither of us ever met each others needs, which is one of the things, especially I, argued so much over.

I was in denial for a long time after he told me he wanted the divorce, and so I kept trying to save the M, but when I actually started looking back on our entire relationship, I saw that I had a lot more to be disappointed about it than he. Yet I am still willing to hang onto and it work it out. I'm not even sure that I'm in love with him anymore, or that I was for a very long time.

Then I would file for divorce and have him out. You can do a Plan B after that. Maybe he will wake up.

Sadly, I am actually more afraid of losing his family than him. He has wonderful kind parents and just a great extended family.

Thanks for the advice. I saw this coming. I know he doesn't have the guts to do it himself.

Sometimes people realize that they are about to lose EVERYTHING and they change. Stick with us for support through this.