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#2022181 02/12/08 12:56 PM
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Hi everyone been a Year since the Ex walked out, just though I would drop in say hi and let you know I am alive.

The past year has not been easy and still is not Still struggling from the financially from the Hole I was put in,
Doing the dating game and it is ok sometimes and a pain at others.

There are time I mess the serenity the predictability I had prior to her going off the deep end and into her mid life crisis or what ever you wish to call it.

Otherwise I am live and making it day to day...

Jim


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It's good to see an update from you Jim.

This year is bound to be a better one for you, hey? It has to be. So you can look forward to the worst being behind you.

You should hear my H's horror stories about some of the dates he had before we met.

I hate dating worse than anything, so I don't envy you, but I have heard that some people actually like it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

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Ok you guys just won't believe this the EX is moving the neighborhood I mean she is in about what 800 yards maybe... and I have heard she purchased a mobile home that is actually very close to mine... OMG why would thy do something like that!

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Hey Jim,
I don't know if I ever posted to you, but I did follow your story. Thanks for the update.
Wishing you the best,
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Originally Posted by jim_aka_ken313
Ok you guys just won't believe this the EX is moving the neighborhood I mean she is in about what 800 yards maybe... and I have heard she purchased a mobile home that is actually very close to mine... OMG why would thy do something like that!

Jim

I think she sees you as "the fall-back guy". Her ideas of what the free and single life would be like have probably not turned out the way she wished, and she may be wishing for the stability and security her M to you used to provide. Look for her to start wanting to be friends with you again, if not more... that is, until another OM catches her eye.

You can't stop her from moving close to you. But what's the possibility of YOU moving? I can't imagine such a situation being healthy.


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I am think she liked the school dist, and the kids have friends and it may be afforadable... She has a BF and has been seeing him for severial months. he is mr Wonderful (then she used to say that about ne too)

I don't think she even considered or thought about me...

I just thought it was highly unusual for an ex to move back into the same mobile home park... I would never have considered moving anywhere close to her.

Healthyb I don;t know I know I am stuck here for a while it appears...

Jim


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PA DD 3/20/07 started in 10/06
WW seperated 2/6/07
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I was asked to send out a note to all in the mess.


What ever happends, how ever it turns out, you will make it, you will survive, you will heal, even trive.

I won't trivilize it (having been there twice now) I know the hurt, pain, betrail and feeling lost.

But I can also say (being there twice) 14 montsh post meltdown I am ok, finically so-so, but otherwise I am ok, I am making new start again but I am ok, I am making single freinds and that is good, I am ok, The world didn't end, there are other fish in the sea and they are biting (I am picky but dating) I didn't die and the world didn;t stop.

While not always fun (neither was being married) It isn't all doom and gloom either.


I can tell you will be ok, you will make it. you won't always be in the SH*T...

Jim


p.s. I will meet the realtor next week and try to sell the home... I have a few options including a new Male friend who also found him self single and I am now running with. This is a great. If Ic an dump the house I can get a Harley!


EA Internet DD 2/06, 11/06
PA DD 3/20/07 started in 10/06
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