This is a complicated issue so I will try my best to keep it short but informational. My husband and I have been together for 8 years.I have one son from before the realtionship and we have 3 kids together. We split up mid june.(my doing) He did not want to end things. A few weeks later my house burnt down my mom ran over our family dog and my grandfather passed away. My husband can to the furneral and we did some talking and decided we would try to work things out. I was going to school and had finals plus my horrible summer was on my shoulder so I was too busy to talk to him for a week or so. I guess in that week he went and found a girl that had just and by just I mean a week turned 18. He is 24. He figured I was mad at him is his story. So long story short I just found out two days ago she is preg and due in a couple months. We have been working on things and things were getting better till he told me. I am not sure what to do. I still love him but am embarressed that most everyone in our small town knew and I was walking around looking like and idiot. Do I say ok I understand things were strange between us and it was a mistake and go on? I need some advice because I am driving myself crazy. I feel like I am in a total fog. Thanks in advance for the help!!!!!!

He's 24, and he's been together with you for 8 years. That puts him at 16 when your relationship started, right? And you have four kids, three of which are his?

How old are you?

Why did you split up?

Yea he was 16. My oldest is 11, then we have 8,4, and 2. I ended things because he was not being responsible. It was like having another kid. It was my fault because he moved in at 17 straight from his mom's and I have been enabling him. He also had some anger issues I wanted him to work on. So far anger issue is going well. He has his own apartment now. I thought things were going well. If he could be a man and pay his bills and so forth he was going to move back in after his 6 month lease was up. He told me because he wants us to work and I do thank him so much for his honesty. It was way to late, but still honest. I have no idea what to do!!!!!