I thought I would start a thread for us BS to vent at any given time and get a few things off our chest with no particular specifics, not really looking for answers here, but just shouting out the hurts where others BS could just nod "yes" with empathy.

Just when we're hurting and pissed, and feel stupid and played, and feel duped and dumb, and feel down and distraught, and feel low and discouraged... We all feel like that from time to time.

Just let it all out here, maybe in small burst, just a release valve, instead of shouting it out to our WS and lovebust, let it out here just like punching a pillow.

I'll start...

I can't stand wayward spouses. I can't stand cheaters, I can't understand how the heck someone can scoop so damn low have intimacy with someone, and then just go home to their mate like nothing ever happen, or even try to make love to you the same damn night they were intimate with someone else. That is just wrong... hey just venting, I had to let it off my chest...over...

Why does this seem so contrived to me? *********EDIT*********

Agreed KIR.

Fishing expedition, stinky bait and all!

t&l

Sco,

You will find with no previous history on the board, most will be cautious to your motives.

Nothing personal, you just need to know a bit of history with this forum to understand the concern.

-JKT

Sorry if I offended anyone, that wasn't my motive. I've been around this site for quite some times, and found it to be a great source of strenght for the hurting betrayed spouses.

I also realized that there wasn't any thread like " a vague venting thread" where anyone can just vent about how they're feeling without to have to do it in anyone personal thread.

I thought it would help also, when its late and you can't call someone to talk, and stuff is steaming off inside of you, and you certainly don't want to let it out on your ww spouses, you might just jump on that thread and burst it out in writing, that's all... No ulterior motives, again I apologize.

As I wrote in another post, that I've been reading on this site a lot and for quite some time. I'm just so beaten down, that I've gotten the strenght to post up my story with my ww wife and get some further help.

Thank you all, I think this whole site is awesome, wish I found it a long long time ago...

I don't think you offended anyone, at least they should not be offended.

Typically a new members first posts are asking question, seeking help for their own sitch. Your starting a thread asking about another member on post "1" and a venting thread on post "2" raises an eyebrow.

You may understand, folks on this sight are above boards when it comes to being cautious, and rightfully so.

Welcome to the site, sorry you find the advice on this forum helpful.

-JKT

Sco,

Most of us vent on our own story threads. You see, after you post for awhile, you will find that there are a few that "take you under their wing" and are REALLY there for you. They follow your story and help you get through your dark days. They "get to know you" and can begin to identify when you need a hug and when you need a "get off your pity pot" swat.

Nothing wrong with venting; in fact, I believe it is very cleansing at times. But it can quickly turn into a bashing session that has the potential to defeat our purpose (to restore our marriage), if we all fuel each other's fire with no clear direction, we run the risk of our emotions intensifying instead of releasing and working the Plans can be more challenging.

Hope that makes sense.

It's just my .02 worth. And the reason why I would prefer to vent on my own thread. And YES, I have been known to vent.

If you share your story, you'll probably understand quickly what I mean about people really being here for you.

well said sexymamabear, it makes a lot of sense to me now the way you break it down. Thanks again, and God bless!

There are many people here who can offer you support, advice and encouragement. How about posting your story and letting them help you get through your journey?

Yes I will. It's been very busy and a bit hectic for me lately, not leaving me much time to get on the computer; but soon as I can buy myself some times, I plan on piecing together my story best I can and post it. I can use the help...

Thank you all for the encouragement. Sco!