Me and my ex husband were married 10 years and have 2 young kids together. It ended in divorce because we grew apart over the years. We had a pretty rocky marriage. We were apart for about 16 months. He got seriously involved with someone very quickly and it lasted a year and 1/2. I didn't get involved with anyone. I didn't even date. I took the time to get counseling, to find myself again and to work on changes that needed to take place within myself. I did a lot of soul searching. Me and my ex husband have reunited and we've been back together for almost 8 months. He has moved back home with me and our kids. He says that he feels like were still married. He still calls me his wife and calls himself my husband. I don't quite feel the same. We are divorced and it feels like that to me. It is almost confusing as to what he is exactly...boyfriend, ex or what??? Our relationship is thriving and it's the best it's ever been. The problem is, I want to be married again. I don't want to "just" live together. I do agree that rushing back into marriage after only being back together for 8 months is not a wise thing. He says that we should stay "legally" divorced for a while because we benefit more financially, but he does want us all living together. I don't want to set the example for my kids that mommy and daddy are living together but their not married. My ex says that in their hearts and little minds, we are married. I believe this could be considered fornication and he says, "no way". I know that I refuse to live with someone if were not married or are not getting married. I really don't know what I'm asking. I guess I could just use some wise counsel/advice.

If this statement is true, then why are you currently living with someone who you're not married to and aren't planning to get married to?

Your EXH is trying to convince you to do something that you wrote repeatedly in your post that you don't agree with. If you are following the PoJA, then the fact that you are not enthusiastic about your EXH living with you means he shouldn't be.