Hi all,

Its been over a year since D-Day and almost a year since WS moved out after I discovered she was involved with another woman. We have filed for divorce, and thats just about completed (end of Feb), and the last time I saw her was end November when we both appeared in court to sign the papers.

We're not exactly on talking terms, though we did exchange some meaningless pleasantries after the D proceedings last year, and last time I saw her she did a 180 turn walked off with her friends, seemingly embarassed or annoyed to see me at a popular nightspot. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Anyway, all this while, a lot of her mail still gets directed to the apartment we both shared (where I'm still staying at). She'd moved out and rented a place with a friend almost a year ago (last April), but so many of her mails still come here (she has a key which she checks the mails every week or so, never ran into her yet)

Should I just send her a text message, or email to politely tell her that I think its been long enough and its about time she started redirecting her mail somewhere else? Or just leave it be?

Dont ASK anything - just let her know that you're going to mark "return to sender, no forwarding address known" if she doesn't take care of her responsibilities.

Dev:

Just file the change of address card with the Post Office.

Let them forward it. It's not supposed to come to your door at that point.

And get the key back, or more simply change the locks. (Can't change them if your renting, but ask the landlord, and offer to pay)

Bundle the remaining mail, send it to WW, with a letter stating that she can't come in anymore, and that you will no longer be responsible for her mail, just like the mail that comes for the people who lived in your place before you. Round can it.

Sorry that your M is dissolving....

LG

Thanks guys.. this is the email i'm sending her:

WS,

Its been close to a year since you moved out and yet a lot of your mail still comes here. I think its time you started redirecting all your future mails to wherever you're staying now. When you're done with that, you can leave the key in the mailbox as well. I think a month or so should be sufficient for you to do all that.

BS

Thanks lousygolfer but my marriage was over months ago, and I was over it months ago as well. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />