I go for a hour-long walk around the neighborhood every day after work. If it's too cold, I work out inside. When it gets warm out, I'll be taking regular hiking trips around the state. It's fun. It's exhilarating. Yadda yadda yadda. But it's NOT recreation, at least not in the same sense that gaming is. You get to a point in your day when your done working, done working out, done cooking, cleaning, and polishing the brass. At that point, unless you're just going to go to bed, you're looking for something fun to do that doesn't involve a lot of physical effort. That's were things like TV and video games come in. And they can't be replaced by more work or exercise. We're talking about two completely different categories of activity.

I agree and we seem to have gotten a different perspective as to what is going on with his marriage. He does have another post that sheds more light on his situation.



This would be one of the things we disagree on. I don’t think she is being controlling. I think she really has a fear that he is addicted to video games. We also don't know if she suggested things that he turned down.There is no way to tell for sure because we don’t have her side, just his.


I also disagree with this statement. It is not his wife’s responsibility to entertain her husband 24/7. He has stated that when they are together they do things. He is speaking about when he is alone. My take on this is he isn’t open to other forms of entertainment so even if she did suggest something else I don’t think he would be open for it. He wants to play video games period.

There is an old saying; people who are constantly bored are boring people. I think there is some truth to that. Put another way, if you are happy with who you are then you can have fun doing anything by yourself without anyone or anything to “entertain” you.

I was going to drop out of this thread, but I can't let this one go. Sense of accomplishment? Reward? The video games (1) waste time. The reward, getting to play the "next level" is (2) more wasted time. There is NOTHING tangiable to come from playing video games. NOTHING. They are an utter waste of time, and this guy's W knows it and wants him to do something more constructive and less addictive.

If you get a "sense of accomplishment" from playing video games, then you have not matured beyond high school (or even middle school) and you are not mature enough to be in a mature relationship.