Well, W2S called OMW today to expose our A. Before he got much out, she told him the OM left her for another woman two weeks ago and she is filing for D. He got most of the story out to her and then put her on the phone with me. I apologized to her from the bottom of my heart. She was amazing. She asked what exactly happened between us (physically) and I told her.

She then proceeded to tell me what has happened. Apparently the OM took her son (9 yrs old) out to lunch 2 weeks ago and told him the he was leaving his mother because he was "sick of her [censored]." What a piece of trash!! Telling that to a little boy who is not even your son to begin with, and who has grown to love him as a father. The OM then rented a U-Haul and took all of his stuff out of their home while she was at school (she is going to school full time right now). She said the A has been going on for six months and that the OW was supposedly a "business partner." She had no idea what was going on the whole time. He had her son around this woman all the time. OMW also said that OM had fallen very heavily back into drugs, and that she found syringes and rolled up dollar bills around the house after he left. She said the OW had bought him a new car and put him up in a one-bedroom apartment as she is very wealthy. Looking on his MySpace site, apparently she is also 18-years old (he is 32).

I feel horrible. Had we told her sooner, we could have saved her and her son so much more heartache than what they are facing now. Her son is devastated, as she will not let him around this man ever again. She said she forgave me, and that he is obviously a user and a con-artist who had us all fooled. I directed her here in case she wanted support or to just learn about the MB principles going forward. She has been in one terrible relationship after another, and it may help her. She said not to worry about telling her sooner, because hearing it now just firms her resolve to never let him back into her life. She has had all the locks on the doors changed and when he came over the other day, he was PO'd because she had the "audacity" to buy herself a laptop (since he took all the computers and she is going to school) and while he yelled, she just did the dishes, didn't engage him at all and told him to get out. Really, I was amazed by her strength. She said she has to be strong for her son, because he is pretty badly hurt right now.

We are so temped to go onto his MySpace account and expose him to all of his friends and his new conquest.

So much for being worried about him retaliating, as he has moved on to younger and richer things to exploit.

Words cannot even express the way I feel right now. Part of me is relived that W2S has taken this step, but a HUGE part of me feels even more IDIOTIC than I already felt (and I didn't think that was even possible). Why didn't I see through the bullcrap? Why did I allow myself to get mixed up with such a loser and put my family at risk and devastate my DH? And then there is also a part of me that feels terrible for waiting so long to tell her.

So, there ya have it. It is done. We do not have to live with this "unfinished business" hanging over our heads any longer. W2S asked the OMW to inform the OW of the kind of man she is involved with, but who knows if it would even make a difference. With him using drugs that way, he will probably be dead within a year or will blow all her money and leave her devasted as well.

Where is the justice...???!!!!!!

Justice is alive and well in your postings and helping others. You have taken a horrible mistake and turned it around to do good. Be very proud of yourself.

B- thank you. Ugh, I just feel TERRIBLE for her and my DH...let alone all the other BSs here...

Your words are so kind and very much appreciated!

18-yr old rich OW? Likely mummy and daddy's money. Exposing the A to HER is probably not going to make much difference, but exposing to THEM is likely going to make a HUGE difference. I say do it to save someone else from being conned early in life by that excuse for a human being.

Believer,

Thanks for saying that. I feel so bad for LaLa right now. This just makes everything we have been through that much more ridiculous. I do tell her everyday how proud I am of her. She has made an amazing transformation back into the caring, kind, sweet woman I love so completely. She is doing so much good here. I'm amazed by her!

Want2Stay

MIM,


I think I have just the idea to expose this POS OM TO THE WORLD! I don't know if you are aware, but I'm a webmaster by trade. I excel at getting websites to rank #1 in Google. I'm thinking my newest site will be www.OTHERMANSNAMESUCKS.com. There I'll put up a nice little letter explaining just what a miserable excuse for a human being this POS is. That way for the rest of his pathetic little life anytime someone Google's his name they'll find out just what an freakin loser they're dealing with.

Want2Stay

Good job, LALA, and want2stay! Now you have this off your chest and can move forward. Nor can you take responsibility for hurting that little boy. The accountability for that lies with the OM, a real loser.

No offense, sweetie, but PUH-LEEZE do not feel bad for ME!! I don't deserve sympathy, seriously!

I feel bad for YOU for having to DEAL with all of this because of ME being an IDIOT!!!!!

LaLa and W2S.... the baby and i would like to give you both hugs..... i am glad everything worked out tho and the OMW is so strong and forgiving.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Thanks for the support and kind words ML and Snuggles!!

Good job, LaLa! Don't beat yourself up. He is a predator, and his BS is well rid of him.

I do hope his BS exposes him to the new OW's parents, because she is likely blowing money that they give her. It really amazes me that some parents with money apparently give their kids such huge sums of money!

Thanks, LC!

No kidding, though...and then they (the parents) wonder why their young kids with all the money end up with drug problems and such. DUH!!

WOW!.....

{{{{{LaLa}}}}}}


Thank you.

I think that for your own personal well being, you two would be better served to just leave the OM, and all thoughts of him unrelated to the issues between you, alone.

W2S, I completely understand the desire for vengeance, I got a little beef going on with OM in my sitch. too in the form of a lawsuit, but you don't even want this guy to think about the two of you again, so don't even go there, its not worth your time.

Lala.....

I am so glad you finally did the right thing. I takes amazing strenght and courage to do this. And it just as amazing, strong and couragous for W2S to help you do this and even provide the first step for you.

Now, if she has forgiven you, you are now absolved. You do not need to feel guilty for what scumbag, degenerate, piece-of-crap OM has done. You have learned a most valueable lesson, one that you willing to share with everyone here and using your knowledge to help all BS and WS out. That in its self is the definition of character.

I'm glad you let us know what was happening in your life. You had mentioned having a bad week earlier, and have worried and wondered about you all week.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

Take care of yourself (when's the DR. appt. again...don't forget to insist on the bloodwork.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />) and W2S...you are an amazing woman.....

not2fun

ps....Don't you feel better now that you did it though???? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I'm gonna be good

I'm gonna be good

I'm gonna be good

Oh heck, I can't....





Hahahahahaha........ <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

BWAAAAhahahahahahahahaha...mopers...OMG I am gay and I didn't even know it?

No, if you read the whole sentance, that's not what she meant...hahahaha...but I did go back and read it a couple times to be sure!!!

Oh, Not2fun, honey, it was just the way you put it.

You have to take out the phrase in parenthesis to see she meant "take care of you and W2S...you are an amazing woman."

It was still funnier n hayul, though!!

OK, I've now had a couple "beverages" and am starting to get a little goofy, so I will thank you all...

TYK...actually I totally agree 100%. I told W2S that he should maybe suggest that to OMW (to expose to the new OW's parents) but THAT'S IT!!! Enough is enough and back to our recovery, dangit!

Not2, thank you so much, sweetie!

Mopey, I am so glad you came in tonight...over to read your thread next. Hope you are OK!

Hi all,

Just wanted to say, I do feel relieved that it is over and that there is no fear of the POS OM retaliating against our family. However, if I'm honest with myself, half of what I hoped to accomplish was to make the POS suffer the way I have suffered. I wanted him to see what it's like to fear for losing his family. I can't believe he's going to get away with destroying my life "scott free." Just makes me sick! I so want to hand him his [censored] on a platter. If I ever do run into him, he won't be able to get away fast enough.<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

Thanks everyone! We appreciate all of your support very much!

Want2Stay

all I can say is that I am emotionally drained and REALLY REALLY tired....

My apologies to W2S......and his manhood.....LMAO


not2fun

Ooops. My bad.....lol.....sorry n2f...and w2s....lol....I see it now.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />



XOM is a S C U M B A G. Hope the karma bus runs into him soon to wake his sorry bahonkas up.

I'm glad you guys can get on to the business of recovering some more now. Whew. Glad that's over with. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Big hug.

You guys, however, don't have to worry about him no mo! Woo Hoo!

I'm hanging in there LaLa. We're still separated. I'm still hurt and resentful that he wasn't able to put my pain before his. Still have residual anger. *sigh* He's also said, again, that "he is confused in his feelings for me" and needs to "find out what he wants for the future" and in the sentence right before that said "I'm not going anywhere". Now I don't know about you but that is mighty confusin to moi. *clears throat twice* Some of his actions are amazingly healing and I feel loved and the next minute I feel nothing but pure rejection. Gotta love it on top of everything else, KWIM?

I guess I should have stuck that on my thread, but ima avoiding it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

I'm resolved in my ability to look out for myself but unfortunately that requires my walls to go up which is not useful to recovery.

Thanks for clearing up my little mistake there...lol...but it is funny anyway....lol....

And thanks for caring about me too. Appreciate it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />