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Lala...

hello chickie....I'm here....but goin to bed now....i am TIRED....

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No prob, Not2...it was very funny, though! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Mopey...

Um, YEAH! Who wouldn't be confused? Good grief. Maybe if he concentrates on what he was thinking when he was FIVE, it'll help him figure it out. OK, that was wrong...sorry...*sigh* <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

You just keep working on your happiness, hon. School, kids, work...you've got enough on your plate! Try to find some joy in your life. I know it's hard. I still struggle with being too "bummed to pull myself into happy!" So, I'm not criticizing, believe me! We need to find a way around the pain and dig deep to find our inner strength, peace and happiness. We'll get there...let's agree to go easy on ourselves here and give it time! We're here for ya!!


Peace,
LaLa

FWW(me) 37
BS 38
DS 9 & 5
PA 7/06-8/06
Dday 2/17/07

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Ummmm, yeah. I also think he's waiting for me to get over my anger, which makes me more angry <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> and I think he wants me to meet more of his needs, which I have a hard time doing if I'm angry AND confused about "his feelings". Just makes me shake my head.

And yeah, I'm all for the "let's go easy on ourselves". Right there with ya.

Night.


Husband was unfaithful to me before and after our marriage, at least 7 times. I found out 13 yrs into the marriage. Trickle truth for an entire year. Several different d-days, so it was more like a d-year. Difficult recovery.



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LaLa,

I am honored to watch you walk through this. I pray that complete healing will come to you both as you move towards the rest of your life.

I am one of your quietest biggest cheerleaders.

Mazel Tov on hard work and G-ds blessings.


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D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
WH and OW broke up 1-09
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Thanks Queenie!!! You are soooo sweet!

Best wishes and prayers to you as well!


Peace,
LaLa

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DS 9 & 5
PA 7/06-8/06
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W2S and LaLa - you are heroes.

You both have my utmost respect and admiration.

I'm honoured to call you both Friends.


Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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Awwwww...BK...ya big softy! (don't worry, I won't tell anybody...hehehe) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Thank you very much, and right back at ya!


Peace,
LaLa

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BS 38
DS 9 & 5
PA 7/06-8/06
Dday 2/17/07

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BK,

You have helped us so much. I had made all of you a promise and I always keep my promises. It sure does tick me off that the OM is going to get away with all he put us through 'scott free.' All I can hope now, is that kara will eventually bite him in the [censored]. There was so much I wanted to get of my chest to him. I need to tell him exactly what I think of him. I'm thinking that I will be sending a "You're a POS" email later today. He's scum and he needs to be told. Anyways, thanks for the support BK! You're the best!

Want2Stay


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FWW-34
DS-7 & DS-3
PA - 7/06-8/06
EA - 6/06-1/07
D-Day: wife confessed 2-17-07, suspected 8-02-06
Broke NC: 2-19-07, 3-24-07, 5/07
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The Karma bus will bite him on the [censored] real soon now.


Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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