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So you can only vote in the affirmative?
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And do I count EACH D-Day? GUILTY AS CHARGED on 2 or more counts! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
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You need another catagory...
I didn't display any physical violence...
My spouse didn't display any physical violence...
JMHO...
I didn't display any physical violence on D-Day...
I did a week later when she had the nerve to ask me to help her pack... I got real pissed. I threw several of her water globes at her dresser...
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STBXWW, 41, Serial Cheater
D-Day #1 5-26-2006 (Our Wedding Aniversary)
D-Day #2 12-26-2007
D-Day #3 5-11-2008
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crap! yeah, I guess so <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />
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A part of me still regrets that I couldn't get to the OW..but then again, you guys, probably wouldn't have gotten the chance to know me..probably would have been in prison...I can beat some butt..
Mimi..AKA..QUIET STORM...
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BH, 46
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D-Day #1 5-26-2006 (Our Wedding Aniversary)
D-Day #2 12-26-2007
D-Day #3 5-11-2008
Separated 1-5-2008
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I LIKE that about you Mimers
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I actually tried to kick my WS where it counts.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />....
then I banged that d#*& phone on the floor when he wouldn't let go of it.....
And in all honesty, he actually didn't try any attempt of retaliation...which did shock me...
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Well, thanks very much MS FABULOCITY !!
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Are "lies" considered sort of a d-day too? Like mini d-days? Ex: My first d-day I was told about one affair....... "it was a few innapropriate emails of a sexual nature".
My mini days (the lies revealed) went along the lines of "Yes, I lied, I did plan to meet the OW and screw her. The date and time were set but she cancelled" and "I did tell her I loved her" and "yes, I lied, we did have phone sex but not here in our house" and then "yes, I lied, I did have phone sex in our bed" .....All the while referring to original d-day of "it was a few innapropriate e-mails with sexual content".
And of course do we only vote on one major d-day or all four? And again, what about the mini d-days? Do they count.
I'm not trying to give you hard time at all Pep. I think this is an interesting thread myself.
I'm also curious as to who generally doesn't show anger anyway normally, but does at or after d-day.
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Husband was unfaithful to me before and after our marriage, at least 7 times. I found out 13 yrs into the marriage. Trickle truth for an entire year. Several different d-days, so it was more like a d-year. Difficult recovery.
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It takes a lot to piss me off enough to get violent... but when it hits... look out... And usually there's no warning... Zero to POW! KA-BLAM! BOOM! in 1 second flat. That's what happened when WW told me to stop sitting on my a$$ and start helping her pack... I went from calm cool and collective to LIVID immediately. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />
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D-Day #1 5-26-2006 (Our Wedding Aniversary)
D-Day #2 12-26-2007
D-Day #3 5-11-2008
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And of course do we only vote on one major d-day or all four? And again, what about the mini d-days? Do they count. yes and yes
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But coming after her is what she wanted me to do..expected me to do.. She wanted to keep up the PRETENSE of being SO SCARED of me... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> I decided NOT to go to HER LEVEL... HEAD UP..CHEST OUT...AKA..learning SELF-CONTROL...maintaining SELF-RESPECT...
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It is REALLY hard to post a poll the way one sees it in one's head -
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It takes a lot to piss me off enough to get violent... but when it hits... look out... me as well I have a long fuse but a large explosive at the end
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Pep, AKA Ms FABULOCITY: WHAT were you REALLY trying to say here: I have a long fuse but a large explosive at the end ???? LG
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I have a long fuse but a large explosive at the end LOL... I never heard it put that way... too funny... Excuse me while I whip this out... (Getting out my note pad and pencil now)... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
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D-Day #1 5-26-2006 (Our Wedding Aniversary)
D-Day #2 12-26-2007
D-Day #3 5-11-2008
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Ummm.....mine is not a short answer. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Well then, my worst angry outburst in this whole stinking mess was when I tried to physically attack my H some time not long after dealing with the anger over d-day #4, and not getting my recovery needs met, and him not letting me vent over my anger. Well, that night I VENTED. Not proud of it. And you know what else? My H actually pushed my buttons, and I let him.....arrrgggg....to "get me" that angry I felt. He participated in the anger, out of anger. Before the "attack" I shoved a chair at him and he shoved it right back at me with a grin almost on his face, not to mention furious. That's when I lost it. I probably yelled at him on most of my mini d-days (revealed lies) with some berating thrown in for being an [censored] and a liar. It was the hurt talking "innapropriately". I told him where to go a few of those occassions, especially if he was defensive when I vented after a new lie was revealed. I knocked over a few drink glasses. I knocked a picture off the wall when he ignored my pain, again. I knocked a few more things over in the garage during some of the major d-days and mini d-days. The really difficult part is when the d-days and the mini d-days come, and they just keep coming.....they compound the anger you would have felt if there were just one d-day or just a few mini d-days. It is really difficult to control anger at that point and I had to many times for over a year. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> I could have lined all the OW up, along with my H, and just beat the crap out of all of them, after the last major d-day, until I released all the anger I had on them. However, when I did lose it and attacked my H, after I saw the look on his face I stopped. I hit him probably 7 or 8 times. I don't know if I would have felt as sorry for the OW. Anyway, I don't really think I'd ever attack them because it's just not right. Not to mention I wouldn't want to get in trouble legally. Now, if one of them threwh the first punch and I didn't instigate it, well then......they're mine. I don't think any of my friends ever considered me a bully until they did see my anger "one" day. I don't go around trying to pick fights. And yes, I am working on anger from all of this with a very good counselor. *edited for double posting and spelling. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />
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Husband was unfaithful to me before and after our marriage, at least 7 times. I found out 13 yrs into the marriage. Trickle truth for an entire year. Several different d-days, so it was more like a d-year. Difficult recovery.
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