Hi look DS is very clingy all week and I'm really worried about him being away from me for 4 nights. It's making him very insecure. He needs his Mumregularly. I hope you see what I'm saying. He needs you too. Can we come up with equal time but not so longfrom each other?

Thoughts???

I'm not familiar with your situation but if you are in PLAN B, you are supposed to have an intermediary and there should be absolutely NO CONTACT between you and your WW. DO NOT RESPOND TO THE TEXT. In fact, she shouldn't be able to text you directly. You should arrange for that to be unable to happen.

Vladie she's squirming.

I'm baffled why you would want to accommodate her.

BigK

I have no intention of accommodating her. I was wondering weather to say something like "divorce causes irrepairable damage to children, what did you expect? You have chosen this.....

You are in Plan B, Vladie. DARK.

V.....you shouldn't even be READING her emails much less responding to them. She's going to test you, push your buttons, and try to break no contact so she can keep cake-eating. Don't do it. Get your intermediary to contact her for visitation and custody issues.

He doesn't have one Star. She has refused to communicate through one and Vladie hasn't pushed her.

Hi Vladie,

I've been taking a break from MB for a while since it was keeping me somewhat stuck in the adultery mode and I want to move forward from that.

Let me start by saying everything your WW is saying and doing right now is typical. I don't hear anything from her that would lead me to believe she is not a WS and just because the OM is out of the picture does not mean she does not still poses a WS attitude. Her comment about not wanting to be married anymore and it not being about OM is exactly what I heard from my FWW. You see it will take time for her to understand what she really wants, however she will most likely only come to the conclusion after you have removed yourself from her life completely.

As long as you are there responding to her, she will see you as the cause of her unhappiness. When you remove your self completely and that means no more phone calls, texts, emails, etc., only then will she start to realize that the cause of her unhappiness is from within.

Vladie, please find an intermediary and ignore all her crap. You do not owe her anything including corresponding directly with her.

She will crash, they all seem to, however you need to take your hands off the wheel and let her drive the car.

HTW

Thanks Hope,

I really appreciated your input as your situation seems very close to mine. I tried emailing you but your address is inactive? Would it be ok if I could email you? My address is

Thanks for your insight and hope things are going well for you