We have been together for six years married for 4 years. I haven't always been there for my wife and She busted her butt for the relationship. We have a 5 year old and a 2 year old. I have finally understood what it means to be a husband and I have started doing the things I was suppose to in the beginning. She now resents anything I do. She gets mad and wonders why I didn't do it before. I have appoligized for what I have done in the past but I now a different person. We continue to fight about the same stuff. She told me that she doesn't think it is going to work out. I love her more than anything and would do anything. I have signed up for the Mort Fertel program don't know if it will help but I am willing to try anything. She choose not to do the program with me right now. I moved out tonight and I am just looking for some advice on what to do.

Welcome to MB. Sorry that you're here.

Is your wife having an affair? Read up on Plan A immediately and move back in to your home.

Go Home!!! That's what you should do. You can't work on the relationship as well if you aren't living together. Being apart makes it much easier for either of you to have an affair. (You didn't mentione if either of you already had) AND she can claim to a lawyer that you abandonded them.

I agree. Go home. Share this site with her. Tell her that you are going to fix the marriage, you're not interested in divorce. Start applying the principles here to improving YOUR side of the marriage. Be the best husband you can be, so that she can't find any valid reason to leave you (unless she's having an affair, in wihch case all the rules change).

Do not leave your house or your children. I looked into Mort Fertel, but this plan seemed to suit me better (I never bought Fertel's program so can't say for sure, I am curious what you think of it).

Why are you posting in the infidelity forum? I suspect the answer is obvious, but you should tell us what's going on to give posters the best chance of helping you.

Read this site, the basic principles, and the articles about infidelity. I'd suggest the book Surviving an Affair by Harley, although much of the his core teachings are available free on this website.

The most important thing is for you to get home. Simply move back in, don't ask, don't fight about it. It is your home, you live there, that is all the reason you need to be there.

IF your W is having an affair, then it is possible to recovery, its going to take alot of work and the process is not instinctive. There's also no guarantee of success. So you need to hope and work for the best, and prepare for the worst. If you end up divorced, you are going to want to set yourself up for as much involvement in your children's lives as you can. Leaving the home and abandoning your children is about the worst thing you can do in terms of having a chance to recover with your W and any future custody issues you might encounter in a divorce.

So first, move home, then come back, start reading and tell your story.