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Joined: Feb 2008
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Joined: Feb 2008
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I received some great advice from you guys and gals on my other posts. A lot of you agree that I just need to get on with my life. I like what one person said about just mourning the guy and getting over him. True I should, but I just don't know how to move on...especially when we are not even legally separated or divorced yet. He said there is not a doubt in his mind and that we are definitely getting a divorce...so how can I prepare myself for this and get over him at the same time?
He still wants to see the kids periodically...even though he tried to beat the crap out of me when I was pregnant with them...plus they don't look alike so he said once (jokingly) that he wanted a paternity test. One of the kids looks like me and the other (the youngest that he beat me the most with) looks just like him...but they are both his! He is stupid for saying that.
We just got married in January of 2007 and weren't together for our anniversary. Matter of fact he didn't even call me for our anniversary, Valentine's Day, our first son's first birthday or the birth of our new son..I had to go through labor and delivery with a c-section(and my 4 day hospital stay) all by myself. Neither him nor his family came to see the baby or me or to help out when I got home. He came over 2xs because I begged him. Other than that he has completely ignored my newborn, which is his twin because they look exactly alike, it's scary.
What kind of man misses his son's birth or his son's first birthday??? So why am I still in love with him? Maybe I am addicted to love and don't want to be alone. I have no clue, which is why I am asking you all.
Jesus save me!
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Joined: Feb 2004
Posts: 715
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You mentioned in one of your posts that you are a Christian......do you have a church family? A pastor or elder who can give you some advice? I'd also recommend you call a Crisis Intervention hotline; those people can really help you see things as they are and tell you how to handle the legal stuff. Meeting with a lawyer would also be a good idea.
Mostly, just slow down, relax, and enjoy your new baby. Don't try to work so hard. Maybe a friend can come over and help you with cleaning or meals?
Anna
3rd marriage to an awesome wonderful man since 2008.
3 children from first marriage, ages 16, 18, 20
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