It seems that sometimes it is more difficult to recover from an affair where the cheating husband fathered a child with his lover as opposed to a cheating wife who has given birth to her lover's child. For starters, the BW cannot make the legal claim, like a BH can, that the OC is a "child of the marriage" and thus recognized as the child's mother. And unlike most OM who usually tend to fade away once a cheating wife has chosen to reconcile with her BH, many OW are extremely bitter when the cheating husband has chosen to reconcile with his BW and become hellbent in using the OC to make life miserable for her former lover and his BW. Not to mention the financial strain that occurs when the cheating husband has to pay child support to the OW which is never the case when the OC is from a cheating wife.

But no matter whether the OC is from a cheating husband or a cheating wife, the devastation is immense and reaches across generations. I cannot help but be in awe of the husbands and wives who have gone through this ordeal and still have love for one another and desire to rebuild their marriages. They are truly heroes.