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Hi I'm new at this site, and found it because i am so desperate to find out what is the right thing to do. How do you know it is time to call it quits.
I've been married for 13 years now, and in the 13years there as been more pain than joy.
On Sunday he lifted his hands again (1st time 6 years ago) this will be the 2nd time.
I've suspected him on cheeting on me, I believed he has cheeted but he denise this. I have some proof (I think), but again it his his word against hers - still "lack evidance". I do not trust him yet I still love him
How do I know by leaving will be the best thing for me and my children
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if he is raising his hands to you the best thing to do IS leave. for you safety and that of your children. also, you do NOT want to teach your children that being abused is ok.
mlhb
God first, family second, and all else will fall into place.
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If there's violence in your marriage I'd suggest you take your kids and leave even if it's for a weekend to let him know you are SERIOUS, that this is NOT OK. Stats in most circumstances say once the violence starts it only gets worse. Children don't need to see a violent father or a mother taking it.
Some counselors won't even work with a couple if there's violence in the home, some will. Sadly it doesn't seem uncommon for a marriage to deteriorate to this. Hard to believe someone you "love" could hurt you isn't it? I was there, I finally left for good after thinking it would get better.
You can get counseling from your local women's shelter etc on this if you wish. It can be quite tramatic, and hard to decide what to do. Sorry you are here with this story.
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